In this video series, I define terms that readers have asked me about! This one is about the BDSM Switch. Do you have a term you'd like defined? Let me know.
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Perhaps you have reached that point where casual, noncommittal involvement no longer addresses your needs. There is a growing desire for one strong relationship, with someone who will know everything about you from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. It is a terrifying prospect.
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Let’s talk about the different myths surrounding submissives and submission. Some may surprise you.
Read The Article | Find SimilarFinding your One isn't easy and your longing to finally use your submission with someone that understands and values it can be overpowering. I've been so desperate that I overlooked some very important safety aspects of meeting someone new. Hopefully, you won't make the same mistakes I did.
Read The Article | Find SimilarOver on Underhishand.com, kaya asked about submission and what qualifies it as submission. She asked, "if you are not expected to do things that you don't like, can it be submission?" Can activities that you would do normally become submission just by someone telling you to do them, or being directed to perform them?
Read The Article | Find SimilarWe all have one somewhere. FetLife being all the rage right now, but also we have alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com, and others where we place ads and identity profiles up to get people interested. This interest can be friends or relationship related; it doesn't matter. What does matter is what we broadcast to everyone that happens across our profiles? You need to keep some things secure and really consider what's necessary to put out into the World Wide Web.
Read The Article | Find SimilarYour concerns to not want to appear to complain overly much are valid, but in many established D/s relationships it’s not your right to withhold information, no matter how trivial with your partner.
Read The Article | Find SimilarOnce I started delving into the realm of BDSM, I learned that honesty is a key factor in having a successful M/s or D/s relationship. Because of the different levels of intensity that can be factored into a lifestyle based relationship, one not only has to be completely honest with their partner but with themselves as well.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarIt’s so important as an s-type to be authentic. If you want to submit, if you want to serve, those desires have to come from the heart. I know it’s not always easy to be as authentic as we would like, but it’s something we must keep striving for.
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