Communication is not the sexiest word a submissive can utter, but it’s one of the most necessary. Whether we like it or not, it is squarely our responsibility to communicate those needs to the dominants who care for us.
Read The Article | Find SimilarEvery day throughout the month of November 2013 there was a new post from me answering the questions posed in the 30 Days of Submission meme that I’d seen going around. You gain a glimpse into who I am as a submissive and my relationship with KnyghtMare.
Read The Series | Find SimilarNot long after my first step into the real world of BDSM I learned of a phrase that to this day has no real definition that I can pin to it. That phrase is “speaking submissively.” To me, there is no way to speak submissively that isn’t also speaking respectfully and with deference. Many other people speak the same way in situations that call for it, like in front of a judge or to the president for instance.But I still get questions about how a submissive is supposed to say x, y and z so I thought that I’d do my best to convey what I think would work in a variety of circumstances so that if the occasion arises that you need to “speak submissively” you’ll have something you can say.
Read The Series | Find SimilarI know that communication in the lifestyle is one of those topics that are constantly talked about, but I believe that’s because a lot of people don’t truly understand the importance of communication and how easily a relationship can turn sour if there is a breakdown in communication.
Read The Article | Find SimilarTrust is an extremely important factor in the lifestyle, and not just in the bedroom. You can’t have the trust in the bedroom if you don’t have the trust outside of the bedroom.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThat inner nagging voice that never goes away can be both a good thing and a bad thing. It can help you remember your focus but it can also drive you insane if you’re not careful
Read The Article | Find SimilarYou can most certainly be independent and submissive. Just be sure that you’re honest about what you want in your submission.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIs it okay for the D-type to withhold information from their s-type?
Read The Article | Find SimilarAre you wondering why you’re wired the way you are? There’s nothing wrong with questioning, but just make sure you don’t spend all your time questioning and not living.
Read The Article | Find SimilarHow to effect change when your D/s relationship leaves your unfulfilled, confused and miserable starts with communication. But Kayla has more advice for you if that doesn't work.
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