As a submissive, one of the first things you will be asked by almost every Dom/me is: what are your limits? You will encounter this sometimes in chat, in play, and when negotiating a relationship with a new Dom/me. If you are playing with a new Dom/me and aren’t asked this question, my advice is not to play with the person. I have heard Dom/mes say that They don’t play with safe words or limits because They know what They are doing. How can a Dom/me know if you have health issues or triggers or are just plain terrified of something unless you tell them?
Read The Article | Find SimilarI am not sure why I dreamed so much of being owned. Of being a slave. I certainly don't try and protest that I was born to belong to a man and that it was my nature from birth because I really don't think it was. I don't think this is something that you are born to be, maybe how you are wired has something to do with it but I think it is more what happens to you and what inspires you rather than how you are born. Well whatever it was, something inspired me to want this.
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Read The Article | Find Similar"To please him." Sure it's a selfless response, but is it always the best answer and perhaps not the most honest? I'm going to talk about why I think we need to reflect on the question more before we consider the auto-response to be the true and valid one for our personal submission.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarOvercoming limits is a part of the journeys we take as subs. It’s a healthy, often invigorating challenge.
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