In this video series, I define terms that readers have asked me about! This one is about the BDSM Switch. Do you have a term you'd like defined? Let me know.
Watch The Video | Find SimilarIt’s a scary thing to know your submissive flame is gone and then to work hard to bring it back out without someone to submit to. I know that if I lost my way and can find someway to come back, that you can to. Give my advice some thought and try to formulate your own ideas for how you too can rebuild your submissive flame, nourish your spirit and return to some sense of normalcy in yourself.
Read The Article | Find SimilarUniqueness is underrated. Everyone wants to be like everyone else, are comparing themselves to others in order to fit in, but it's the fun little unique aspects of a relationship that make it special. Kindling those unique things is especially important for me in a mono-poly and likely most other relationships.
Read The Article | Find SimilarMy owner frequently forgets his own deadlines, rules, etc, be them for me or for his own things. how do I help him without being a nag? I have tried setting up calendars, but he forgets to look at them.
Read The Article | Find Similar31 Flavors of Kink by Leia Shaw and Cari Silverwood is completely unlike any fictional BDSM book that I have read. Check out the review!
Read The Review | Find SimilarSo, say you want to set up a training history, how do you start? Each relationship should be treated the same, whether it was casual, long term, live-in, long distance or online only. Relationships that are short to really long all should be documented. All of them will matter and have an impact on your future.
Read The Article | Find SimilarYou've met the perfect person; they are strict and charming, their dominance is a perfect compliment to your submission. There is just one hang-up. They are shorter than you, or they could be smaller in stature than you. Could there be an issue with your ability to submit to someone that can't overpower you physically or that you can't gaze into their eyes from below?
Read The Article | Find SimilarI’ve been developing a submissive code of ethics for myself to help give me long term goals and a focus. I feel it will bring about change in me that perhaps I can’t see yet. I thought I would share it here so that you can perhaps get some ideas for developing your own code of ethics.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI tend to get disgusted because the control freak in me wants to believe that it’s done everything in such a manner that there is no need to start over; ergo there’s no need for me to reach a low, especially a new low in life (yes, I said control freak). But even in those moments, throughout my life there’s been something in me, an urge or compulsion, a drive that rests in the background… That’s where my faith resides in that ‘something’. But what happens when I’m disconnected from it?
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhat tips do you give this larger person about kneeling?
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