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The Real Meaning Behind Service and Serving as a Submissive

Service is any activity or function that you fill to make your dominant partner's life easier. This could be as simple as preparing their coffee, laying out their clothes for them or performing domestic chores. Yes, it does include the play and sex aspects of some relationships, but not all of them are wired this way.

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Submission By Choice: Learned Submission

It’s not an easy task to draw out the submissive nature within you if it isn’t already present in all you do. If you are like me, you struggle and rebel at the slightest challenge in character or task that you just ‘don’t feel like doing’. The goal is to submit anyway and to feel that the importance of your life is the imprint of your service on another.

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Real Life vs. Online, the Battle for Understanding Both Styles of Relationships

Online is no substitute and you can’t learn all that there is to know about living this life from essays and forums. You have to experience it to truly know. Every journey is different but I am grateful for my online VT beginnings.

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A Personal First: Bootblacki​ng and Boot Worship

I won't bore you with the step by step details of what I did. However, what is of key importance for this writing is what I felt. I was extremely focused, calm even. There was an intense feeling of determination. My understanding being that I was contributing to Sir's uniform; his appearance; and I wanted him to look sharp!

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Making Assumptions: Try to Learn Everything and Make Sure Your Partner Knows Too

What's dangerous is that more and more information that is shared has a larger element of assumed knowledge; the information you need to know before you pick up the new information. I'm not perfect either.

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Bootblacking and Why I Love It

The thing for me which is so very wonderful about polishing Master’s shoes is that it is something that I can do on my own to show Master how much I am thinking about him. My focus is always on what I can do in order to make Master’s life better.

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Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

The slave resume is a snapshot of you - the services you thrive in, something you'd like to learn, S&M experiences/desires, interests, hobbies, in other words, you're sharing the highlights of yourself that you desire to find a compatible match for.

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9 Books on BDSM and D/s I've Read More Than Once (They're THAT Good!)

You have to admit that the books that resonate with you the most, are ones you've read more than once. Here's my list of 9 of the best BDSM and D/s related books that I've pulled off the shelf time and time again.

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What Should I Try Next: Like Orgasm Control? Try Forced Orgasms!

Once you start perfecting the art of giving up control of your orgasm to another person, you can start exploring it in other ways. Forced orgasm is not forcing it upon somebody unwilling (consent always of course!) but instead creating a situation where the bottom is orgasming in a way that is surprising, unconventional, or even in a way that makes them uncomfortable.

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What Should I Try Next: Like Role Play? Try Medical Play!

A great way to push the envelope in role play is by trying out medical play. Medical play lends itself so easily to BDSM. You can include bondage (stirrups, anybody?), massively amplify power roles (doctor taking advantage of patient is so taboo), and include new elements of sado-masochistic play.

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