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BDSM vs Abuse

The core of BDSM is consent. No one will disagree with this. We are all aware, hopefully, that abuse is not consensual. If you feel that what is going on is ‘not right’ then you certainly should investigate if it is abuse or not. Some of what you may feel could not be abuse at all, but it’s good to know for sure. Learn how you can see the differences for yourself.

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This is Not a Game - BDSM is My Life

I feel that there are so many who come into the lifestyle and do not realize what being a slave or submissive really entails. They come into the lifestyle having a certain expectation, a certain fantasy, but once they really get their feet wet, they realize it’s nothing that they expected.

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Those First Few Baby Steps into BDSM and Submission

Everyone has to start here. The very beginning, where all the jargon of BDSM starts to fill your mind and overwhelm your feelings. You think you are a pervert, or not normal. You could even be trying to suppress those kinky thoughts from your mind. But they keep creeping back in, don't they. For the brave souls that start searching for a common thread in their heads, a like-mindedness you can be sure that there is a sea of differences to swim through to get there.

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Tickle My Tush: Mild-to-Wild Analplay Adventures for Everybooty

If you have any experience at all with anal play already then this book might be a little too shallow for you. But if you are brand new to exploring your or your partner's anus then you might want to pick up it up.

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Tips for Taking Care of Your BDSM and Sex Toys

If you follow some simple guidelines you will be able to keep your BDSM and sex toys safe and extend their life expectancy.

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Tips For Those Struggling to Enter the Local BDSM Community

I understand. You don't know anybody there. There are about a bajillion worst case scenarios that your brain has conjured up ever since you first desired to head out into the local community.

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Tips on How to Attend a BDSM Convention on a Budget

It’s no secret that these conventions can get costly so I wanted to put together some tips for you to use to help you save a bit of money and still enjoy the event to its fullest.

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To Hug or Not To Hug: Etiquette for Giving Hugs in BDSM Situations

Hands and arms embracing another person, so what is wrong with a hug?

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Too Young for BDSM - Responding to the Questions I Get from Underage Persons

At least once a month I get an email from someone that is under 18 asking very important questions about BDSM and their curious interest. Here are some of the questions and answers I generally give these persons.

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Topping from the Bottom

Topping from the bottom is a misunderstood term in BDSM, especially if you are a novice. Topping from the bottom is when you simultaneously adopt both roles. This could be in the form of giving commands, refusing requests or moving to control the location of impacts during play. Generally, it is frowned upon to try to force the Dominant’s hand to do something they do not wish to do.

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Topping from the Bottom

Topping from the Bottom is a quick downloadable guide that helps you grapple with a common misconception pertaining to submission, topping from the bottom. Learn what it is and isn’t, how you know you are overstepping your boundaries and what you can do to lift the stain that bottom-topping has left on many people’s opinions on submission.

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