This is a guest article by Melissa Tilghman.
BDSM is one of the best ways to spice up sex life! If you’re reading this post, you might have already completed the beginner’s guide to BDSM and know the whole shooting match. And as an experienced lady, you’d like to continue those sweet games in the bedroom despite your pregnancy! But as a mom-to-be, you’re worried about your baby’s wellbeing. That’s the reason for this post: to arm you with the necessary tips so that you can lead a great sex life and take care of your future offspring.
So, is it safe to practice BDSM when you’re pregnant? The answer is YES! Good news, right? You can use some sex toys and your best BDSM rope!
Get to know some tips to do it safely!
DISCLAIMER: Submissive Guide has not consulted medical professionals to confirm the validity or safety of the suggestions below. Please talk with your OB/Gyn before you play so that your unique and personal situation is taken into consideration. Play safely.
Bondage
If you’re submissive and don’t want to give up being tied up, you don’t have to. However, take into consideration the following information. A pregnant body tends to swell, ligaments, and joints become more mobile, so it’s easier to hurt them, plus, you may feel back pain. With that said, you should avoid handcuffs; it’s better to take special BDSM rope or a soft scarf. Tight and immobilizing bondage may be dangerous for you and the fetus because of breathing issues. And it’s better not to lay face-up for too long after the fourth month. There is a high risk of wrong blood circulation.
Conclusion: bondage is all right as long as you feel comfortable and can communicate with your partner during sex.
Asphyxiation
Breathing issues are a ‘no-no’ during pregnancy. You must avoid anything that restricts your ability to breathe. It’s too dangerous for you and the fetus. So, it’s better to set aside such a play, at least while you’re expecting. It’s not worth the risk!
Pain and Impact Play
Flogging is ok during pregnancy if that’s what you like during your scenes. A pregnant body is protecting the fetus, and it’s difficult to damage it during a spanking. However, the belly is off-limits! Any kind of impact, especially in the third trimester, could be fatal for a developing baby and woman.
Upper back, butt, thighs, legs are safe places for mild flogging.
What about breasts? Oh, it depends! They become sensitive while expecting and breastfeeding so you may experience mind-blowing sensations during impact. Or it’ll hurt. So, it’s only up to you!
Generally, the skin becomes more delicate during pregnancy, so your pain tolerance may change, keep that in mind!
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Conclusion: as you can see, there are some restrictions but not too many, and you can work around them! Just listen to your body carefully and communicate with your partner!
Electrical games
You’ll be surprised, but you can continue electrical play during pregnancy! What happens during an electrical impact? It can cause burns, muscle spasms, heart damage. So, avoid applying near the heart; pelvis and belly are also a ‘no-no’ because it can cause the fetus’ demise!
Conclusion: if you trust your partner and you both will take some extra level of caution, electrical play won’t do any harm!
Intercourse
Unless your water breaks, you are bleeding, or have any medical restrictions you can enjoy vaginal sex, anal sex, and fisting. It will not hurt your developing baby. Sex and foreplay games, while you’re expecting, keep your muscles in good shape, which in turn could make delivery easier.
Conclusion: you definitely should have penetration as long as your doctor is ok with it!
Role-playing
Role-playing is undoubtedly all right during pregnancy. It’ll not only spice up your sex drive but also cheers you up, give you new fantastic emotions. Such games are fun and healthy.
But! You shouldn’t wear high heels during your games. There is a higher risk of falls, twisted ankles, and other injuries because moms-to-be cannot keep their balance that well.
One more thing! You’d better avoid scenarios that invoke a sense of anxiety or fear. While you’re expecting, you don’t need additional stress. Nobody knows how it’ll affect you and your little one. Wait a bit with such games!
How to Use Role Play to Spice Up Your Sex Life
Conclusion: we can stand for role-playing! Just don’t put on high heels and don’t allow the partner to scare you!
Things to Consider for safer BDSM While Pregnant
So far you can see your kink and pleasure in bed won’t be affected much during pregnancy. However, there will be some considerations.
- A pregnant body is beautiful, but as your time nears, you may not be that graceful and won’t be able to keep balance well. So, be careful!
- Consider your new issues. You’ll need to go pee more often. Much more often! So, if you have long games, talk it over with your partner
- Take into account your emotional changes. Things that might have turned you on previously now can bring you to tears. Be kind to yourself, take time, and think about what you need. Maybe you have to stop practicing BDSM for a while or make it milder.
- Communication with your partner is crucial! Let him know if something is bothering you. If you are submissive, work out stop signals or words together so that you can show that you’re not ok with something during a session. It’s essential for you and the fetus’ wellbeing, especially if your games are not vanilla ones!
- Ask a doctor any questions you have. Consult if you’re not sure about BDSM practice. Don’t be shy! They really and truly have heard everything.
During pregnancy, you may become even hornier than you were before! And you have a green light to do anything you like in your bedroom if your doctor has no objections!
Pregnancy is a great time, but it might be tiring as well. So, why not treat yourself with such a delightful thing as awesome sex with your true love! Can you still take part in BDSM when you’re pregnant? Our answer is YES! It’ll cast back your mind during all those sleepless nights and changing diapers!
Author Bio: Melissa Tilghman is a sex expert and an advisor of BDSM. She can give you suggestions in this sex segment, which will drive you and your partner crazy about trying out exciting sex play activities with the help of different sex toys. Her main intention is to make you discover a cloud of new sensual possibilities.
