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BDSM vs Abuse

The core of BDSM is consent. No one will disagree with this. We are all aware, hopefully, that abuse is not consensual. If you feel that what is going on is ‘not right’ then you certainly should investigate if it is abuse or not. Some of what you may feel could not be abuse at all, but it’s good to know for sure. Learn how you can see the differences for yourself.

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Topping from the Bottom

Topping from the Bottom is a quick downloadable guide that helps you grapple with a common misconception pertaining to submission, topping from the bottom. Learn what it is and isn’t, how you know you are overstepping your boundaries and what you can do to lift the stain that bottom-topping has left on many people’s opinions on submission.

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Topping from the Bottom

Topping from the bottom is a misunderstood term in BDSM, especially if you are a novice. Topping from the bottom is when you simultaneously adopt both roles. This could be in the form of giving commands, refusing requests or moving to control the location of impacts during play. Generally, it is frowned upon to try to force the Dominant’s hand to do something they do not wish to do.

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Traveling With Toys: A Submissive's Dilemma

To make toy storage easier, I discovered that the ideal toy bag.

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Understanding Natural Pain Processing Techniques for Better BDSM Play

There are three natural pain processing methods. They are acceptance, denial, and devouring. Two of these methods are very common, and the third being rare.

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Understanding Sub Fever

Figuring out what to do once you know you have it can be difficult. Novice submissives lose their rational thought really easily when the fever takes hold.

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Understanding the Reason Behind, "Am I The Only One?" and How to Respond (With a Bit of Netiquette Rules)

The underlying response to this question is simple, but the reason the person asked it is because it doesn't feel simple to them. Give the person compassion, not snark.

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Understanding Your Body's Responses During Play

When you engage in playtime with a Dominant your body is the canvas for sensation and pleasure. You can run the gamut of emotions and many of them can take you by surprise. It's not uncommon even for someone who plays regularly to be shocked by a new reaction to a play activity that they have experienced before. This goes beyond the bruising, scratching and other physical results of play. Here are just a few of the more common reactions to play.

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Under the Microscope: Analyzing What You Read About BDSM for the Truth

You can understand more of what you read and apply only what will work for your situation while discarding the rest - without being overly critical.

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Up in Flames: The Basics of Fireplay

There is a wide variety of activities you can learn that are part of Fire Play, but first, make sure you understand the risks. Fire is dangerous. We learned that as children. Know what you are doing before you start applying it to your skin as a part of BDSM play. Once you know, check out all the things you can do with it!

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