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What Traditional Submissives can Learn from Hypnosis Fetishists

The hypnosis fetish, however, is relatively new. And because of its newness, traditional submissives sometimes dismiss hypnosis as unnecessary or a cheat. But hypnofetishists have learned a lot about sex and relationships in the past twenty years. And traditionalists could learn something from us: the importance of rapport.

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The False Comfort of Labels on Our Personal Identity in Kink

We allow ourselves to become trapped within the created labels of others we are essentially accepting an external level of control or entrapment. Becoming comfortable and accepting of yourself is when you will find your personal strength and internal peace.

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The Importance of Being Your Own Person

Being a submissive is a huge part of who you are, but it’s not all you are. It can be easy to lose yourself in the relationship and your submission. It’s important to be your own person as well.

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The Importance of Safety, Risk-Awareness and Consent in Pre-Scene BDSM Negotiation

Negotiation and consent are the primary ways BDSM is distinguished from abuse - they are essential parts of kinky play. But far too many people gloss over how important it is to be really good at negotiating so that you can have great kinky fun. And you want to have kinky fun, right?

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The Ins and Outs of Fetishes

A fetish is a sexual attachment to an inanimate object of body part. In many cases the fetishist can no achieve an erection or orgasm without the object being present or an active part in the act. This is not limited to men, so don't get my use of words turned around. Women also can develop fetishes.

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The Many Faces of Submission

What I'm about to lay out for you is not the only way these terms can be described but it is a good measure for the novice and open to your interpretation. No one way to serve is better than another in this list. Remember that not matter where we are on the mountainous journey, the goal is the same. Surrender.

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The Many Layers of Sub Space

Whatever information you encounter there is only one truth. You can reach sub space and if you have any experience at all, then you probably have and just don't know what it was called. So let's start small.

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The Marketplace

An interesting development is that I had this urge to improve my own submission as I read about their struggles, even though I know this is complete fiction. I'm sure I'm not the only one, as all over the internet people are 'developing' training programs based on the books. Which I'm not sure I like, but whatever floats your boat, right?

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The Most Popular and Favorite Books on BDSM - According to Our Readers

The following is a compilation of the most purchased BDSM-related books on Amazon – by our community.

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The New Bottoming Book

All in all, I find the book very basic in it's explaining what bottoming is and how to start on that path. Certainly recommended for the novice this book can help shed the nervousness and dispel the fantasy of play.

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The Popularity of BDSM

If your only view of BDSM is the online community then you could believe that BDSM and being kinky is a huge playground and that a lot of people participate in it openly. And you’d be wrong. While a a good portion of the US population admits they are kinky (10% according to NCSF) most of those are not going to participate in a BDSM community or step further than silk blindfolds and light bondage.

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