A Submissive's Collection of Domestic Service Resources

Quite an extensive list of Domestic Service resources and links for any submissive looking to enhance that part of their service. Links from this site, the internet, FetLife and more.

Help! My Dom is smaller than me!

You've met the perfect person; they are strict and charming, their dominance is a perfect compliment to your submission. There is just one hang-up. They are shorter than you, or they could be smaller in stature than you. Could there be an issue with your ability to submit to someone that can't overpower you physically or that you can't gaze into their eyes from below?

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

Establishing a Safe, Trusting Environment for Talk

Let's cover what a safe environment looks like from the people present at the physical location you choose to talk in. A good environment takes planning and mutual agreements to work the way it's supposed to. And you thought that you just had to say, "We need to talk," right?

Dealing with Stress in a D/s Relationship

My Sir is dealing with a lot of stress right now, and as a result he seems to be less interested in dominating me. As a result I am questioning my submissiveness. As a submissiveness, should I be accepting this change in him as part of my submitting to him and his needs?

Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What's the Difference?

Like everything in life, there are pros and cons to both types of management styles and I want to share some of those with you now.

Learning to Appreciate the Small Moments - Submissive Meditation Monday

Everyone has time in their lives where things don't feel like they are going their way at all. It can drag you down or you can search for the positive.

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 6 of 7) - A Few Notes on High Protocol

While good manners are important in all situations, leather protocol should not be a source of anxiety for novice doms and subs. In part 6 of Ambrosio's series on Protocol and Etiquette, a few rules for formal introductions, dining and general "vanilla" etiquette are covered.

Feeling Like a Parrot: Saying What He Wants to Hear Instead of a Sincere Response

Do you feel like a parrot when your Dominant asks you to respond in a specific way after a request is given? Learn how to discuss this issue with your partner and work to come to an agreement.