5 Tips for Coping with Your Jealousy in a D/s Dynamic

Whether you’re in a D/s dynamic that’s open to new play partners, or you’re in a polyamorous relationship, jealousy can be a challenge. If it’s causing snags in your relationships (and even before it does), coping with jealousy can be a useful skill to learn. These five tips will have you well on your way.

Are You Cheating on Your Dominant With Your Ex Dominant's Memory?

The problem is I keep thinking about my first Dom that introduced me into this life. We were together for two months. I feel like I am cheating or something when I think about him but I don't want him.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

When Your Dominant Plays With Others: How I Negotiated an Open Relationship Style That Works for Me

We laid down rules for what was allowed with play for others, we established a way to reconnect after he played so that I wouldn't feel less of a person once it was over.

Keys to a Successful Relationship - Honesty is Really the Best Policy

Once I started delving into the realm of BDSM, I learned that honesty is a key factor in having a successful M/s or D/s relationship. Because of the different levels of intensity that can be factored into a lifestyle based relationship, one not only has to be completely honest with their partner but with themselves as well.

Is it Really a Bad Thing to be a Selfish Submissive?

I thought by not being selfish, I was going to be a better slave and I found out the hard way, that wasn’t true. You have to be selfish once and awhile to take care of yourself and to meet your own needs.

Feeling Like a Failure as a Slave

I know I’m human. Since I am human, that means I’m going to make mistakes. Here are some other tips I’ve found that can help when you find yourself feeling like a failure.