This week's video post is about masochism and submission.

I mentioned this in the post about myths that submissive's aren't always masochist. I thought this topic deserved a more in depth discussion.

I'm a masochist. I get sexual pleasure from pain. That's wired into me. I'm also submissive. It's who I am. For me, these two things go together.

It's not always the case. I read about submissives forcing themselves into play with Dominants because they think it comes with the role of submissive. They don't understand that they are separate entities. Now, submitting to pain to please the Dominant is different and can bring your further into your submission the more you take from your Dominant, but it's not required and should never be forced.

This has nothing to do with punishment. No one likes to be punished but sometimes it's a necessary evil. This is about pleasure, pure and simple.

If you are a submissive, or learning about submission and don't like pain or don't think you like pain then that doesn't mean you aren't submissive. It just means you aren't masochist. There are so many roads to submission that going down that one is not required. You could like service, or domestics, or even animal play. There are endless possibilities.

If you have questions about masochism please email me at I would be happy to answer them for you.