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Read The Article | Find SimilarNot long after my first step into the real world of BDSM I learned of a phrase that to this day has no real definition that I can pin to it. That phrase is “speaking submissively.” To me, there is no way to speak submissively that isn’t also speaking respectfully and with deference. Many other people speak the same way in situations that call for it, like in front of a judge or to the president for instance.But I still get questions about how a submissive is supposed to say x, y and z so I thought that I’d do my best to convey what I think would work in a variety of circumstances so that if the occasion arises that you need to “speak submissively” you’ll have something you can say.
Read The Series | Find SimilarA contract is not a legally binding document, but more of an agreement between two consenting individuals. Some are very formal and have multiple pages, others are as brief as a few paragraphs. A D/s contract is a lot like a pre-nuptial agreement.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIn a BDSM context, it’s more common to have to learn how to address someone than in a non-scene situation.
Read The Article | Find SimilarJust as saying yes or answering in the affirmative can be done many ways, saying no has many ways you can say it also.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThere is no “proper manner” for asking for a collar.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhile good manners are important in all situations, leather protocol should not be a source of anxiety for novice doms and subs. In part 6 of Ambrosio's series on Protocol and Etiquette, a few rules for formal introductions, dining and general "vanilla" etiquette are covered.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThe proper apology is an art, it really is. Take it upon yourself to correct your Dominant’s displeasure with an apology.
Read The Article | Find SimilarGenerally speaking, the first time you encounter someone in a BDSM context you will likely have to introduce yourself. We’ve all heard that you only get one chance to make a first impression to make sure it’s a good one.
Read The Article | Find SimilarEveryone could learn to be a bit more appropriate from time to time. Here are a few tips that might help you be heard in the right perspective that you intended.
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