The Importance of Journaling Your Submission

There are several reasons why you would want to start up a blog or journal. They can be very personal or have every opportunity to be open with others. Perhaps you need advice or exposure to help you through your journey. The following methods can help you get your feet off the ground.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

Orgasm Control: Learning How to Ask for an Orgasm

In D/s sexuality one of the more common rules is that the Dominant controls the orgasms and sexual release of the submissive. Some require that the submissive not even touch themselves without the say so of the Dominant. In this style of power exchange it is familiar territory that the submissive will learn how to ask for an orgasm whether in or outside of a scene.

Lessons in Submissive Speech 6: Answering in the Negative

Just as saying yes or answering in the affirmative can be done many ways, saying no has many ways you can say it also.

Talking Shop - Tips for Purchasing BDSM Toys

How to choose what to buy and where to buy it from and what sort of factors that should be considered during the joys of adult toy shopping!

But I Don't Like Pain! Learning to See the Eroticism in Pain as Pleasure

I can show you that pain is indeed something erotic when used correctly and in the right situations. Pain doesn't have to be painful, and other stimuli can be pleasurable and can either mask pain or enhance it.

How Do I Stay Positive While Being a Single Submissive?

Being single is hard. If you want to find a Dominant you have to go where they mingle.

Busyness, Why Do We Think It Adds Value?

I've come to see that oftentimes we slaves measure our value as slaves according to the accomplishments of other slaves and attempt to match the productivity level of other slaves that we look up to.

Learning to Help a Partner Through a Poly Breakup

Breaking up is traumatic and should be managed like grief and loss. It can't be rushed and everyone deals with it differently. But as long as you have patience you can help your partner make it out the other side.