No matter what kind of relationship you are in or what kind of dynamic you have going on within that relationship, it is extremely important that you have your own sense of self and not get completely wrapped up in being a part of a couple. There is so much more to you than just being a s-type and being involved in a relationship.
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Read The Review | Find SimilarDan Savage asked if nerds and geeks are more likely to be into BDSM. It was meant to be a joke, but in all truth, there has to be something to this as I've seen it myself. Now maybe it's because I'm more sensitive to seeing nerds and geeks, or should I say advanced intellectuals, being more into BDSM than other forms of sexuality. I am, after all a nerd myself and my Master is a geek. We get along better with nerdy and geeky friends than we do others because of the common topics that keep coming up.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThere are a great many scenarios most would not consider safe and sane kink that I would gladly engage in. There are some that I will slam on the breaks for all I'm worth, and hope like hell M will snap out of it and realize he just took a break from reality for a second. Mostly things that will hinder my ability to serve him, like dismemberment, or death. But in case of emergency, I have the right, if not responsibility, to assess him as "absolutely off his rocker" and point out how unrealistic he's being... within reason.
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