My Master sometimes wants me to beg for mercy while he's punishing me.  I don't really mind it, but I just don't know how to beg for mercy.  It's not the same as begging for an orgasm.  I'm not sure how I'm supposed to beg for him to have mercy on me during whippings or spankings or anything involving pain & I can't find any articles on begging for mercy instead of an orgasm.  Any ideas on what my Master might want to hear exactly?

Hi there!

Begging for mercy can be a fun and interesting addition to your play as you are probably aware.  There are a few things I'd like to convey in this response that perhaps you don't quite understand.

First, begging for mercy is very much like begging to orgasm or anything else for that matter. It has a different intent, sure, but begging is begging. It's not a natural skill and definitely has to be learned. I was terrible at begging and honestly am far from perfect even now.

Begging is a form of humiliation play. The key is to not expect a positive result but to hope for it with every nonverbal clue, every word uttered. Begging is about receiving the minimum not the max and is done clearly identifying your appreciation for what is offered.

In the case of begging mercy your whole being and every word you say is pleading to have him stop whipping you and can only work if you are honest and sincere in your pleas.  Stroking his ego will help your cause as long as you make yourself humble and unworthy of his attentions.

Remember in begging you glorify your master and humiliate yourself.

Second, I can not tell you what your Dominant will want from you. Each person and each relationship are different. I'm sure you've heard that before. I will not speculate for you on his desires. But what you can do is sit him down at the dining table, or couch or out for coffee and talk about your need to please him when begging for mercy but you aren't sure what he'd like from you when you do. Ask him what is said in his fantasy when a girl begs for mercy and how she goes about it. Listen to him, take notes if you need to.

And then practice. You can practice alone when masturbating (if you are allowed) or when you are fantasizing. Put yourself in a headspace where you can try to beg for something. See how it feels and try to remember what you say. Then try it the next time he asks you to beg for mercy.

Afterward, talk about the begging and see what worked for him and what didn't. Then you can adjust accordingly.