How to Revive Your Service When Protocol Becomes Boring

The pleasure I felt wasn't just sexual it was like a part of my soul was finally being satisfied. It didn't last. After a few months, I started to feel less happy about my protocol. It felt less like bliss and more like a chore. I had lost the attachment to WHY the protocol was in place, to begin with; the reminder of my place in the relationship. The honeymoon period was over. Things got really rocky in our relationship because the effort involved in doing the protocol got more and more difficult for me, and the stress he experienced was just as bad.

What are Dress Protocols?

A dress protocol is established by a Dominant as the way a submissive is to present themselves for any specific situation. These can be basic grooming habits to very precise details to what to wear to dinner or bed. A lot of times these are the first rules established in a relationship. These can start out as directions for when and what to keep shaved, how to care for your hair, or if you can wear panties or not.

Creating a Personal Submissive Protocol

A personal protocol helps to organize your life and help you reach your goals. It's built with a checks and balances system so that you stay on track. I would like to encourage you to consider developing some personal protocols of your own.

How a Personal Protocol Can Aide Your Service

The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn't learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal growth.

I'd like to change that. A personal protocol can bring you ahead of the game, no matter where you are in your submissive journey. In this article I'd like to give you a working definition of a personal protocol, how you can develop one whether you are single or in a relationship and what it can do for you.

Why Do Dominants Insist on Being Called Sir?

Was it a matter of respect the Dominant thought they had earned? Was it a matter of protocol? What really was the issue behind not wanting to say that 3 letter word to a Dominant?

How Should a Submissive Act at a Dungeon Party?

Are there some suggested rules or a protocol for a slave to engage in conversation at a dungeon?

How Protocol Develops in D/s Relationships

I'm going to cover the basics of protocol, some different types of protocol and then talk about how to develop your own protocol in your relationship.

How I Started a Simple BDSM Protocol, and How You Can Too!

Protocol isn't lovely to see because it's complex, it's lovely to see because it takes something so simple and makes it special.

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 6 of 7) - A Few Notes on High Protocol

While good manners are important in all situations, leather protocol should not be a source of anxiety for novice doms and subs. In part 6 of Ambrosio's series on Protocol and Etiquette, a few rules for formal introductions, dining and general "vanilla" etiquette are covered.

Lessons in Submissive Speech 2: Personal Introductions

Generally speaking, the first time you encounter someone in a BDSM context you will likely have to introduce yourself. We’ve all heard that you only get one chance to make a first impression to make sure it’s a good one.