Using Ritual to Maintain and Define Power Exchange

No matter how you view your life, rituals can help define the power structures we choose for our relationships. Rituals can enrich power exchange by giving reinforcement, regularity, and depth to relationships in a unique and beautiful way.

How a Personal Protocol Can Aide Your Service

The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn't learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal growth.

I'd like to change that. A personal protocol can bring you ahead of the game, no matter where you are in your submissive journey. In this article I'd like to give you a working definition of a personal protocol, how you can develop one whether you are single or in a relationship and what it can do for you.

Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler

There is one rule that breaking it is considered a cardinal sin in the world of BDSM-outing a fellow lifestyler. Doing such can have life changing effects on their vanilla life and the kinky life of the person who does the outing.

30 Days of Submission: Day 14 - Religion Conflict

Does religion have any bearing on your decision to submit?

Humor in BDSM - Jokes, Funny Tales and an Invitation to You

Not everything we do in BDSM is serious.

More Red Flags for Everyone - Personal Safety and Warnings

Everyone’s safety is extremely important of course, but in the BDSM community, it is the people who give themselves up the most that have a greater chance of being hurt; submissives.

Talking to Your Dominant: When A Desire Becomes a Need

Being in a power exchange relationship at the time was more of a want and desire than a need. The more experience I gained, the more it became a need.

How to Navigate D/s with Family Around

Perhaps one of the most challenging decisions we face as a parent is what we should tell our children, when and how much.

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 11 - Top 3 Mistakes When Starting A Journal

It all starts with good intentions, but if you don't use a journal to its potential then you are wasting a valuable resource - YOU! Here are the top 3 mistakes people make when starting a journal.

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 22 - How to Manage Negative Comments Without Rage

Accepting criticism is never an easy thing to do. Learn how to curb your knee-jerk responses and anger to keep your readers coming back and to also attract new readers.