Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

The Balance of Responsibility in a D/s Relationship

With all BDSM relationships varying so dramatically, it's hard to make a general assumption on who bears the burden of responsibility. It's important to embrace the responsibilities you do have and to act with great diligence when performing those duties.

What Makes a Good Dominant?

I think there are a few characteristics that may exist in common, a lot of which are often found in a good 'normal' relationship too!

Submission is Not All Sunshine and Puppies: The Realities of Submission

If you've had a difficult time, or are struggling, I welcome you to write about it for Submissive Guide. Share with us your difficulties; we'll understand and be there for you.

A Day in the Life: Pam

This is a guest post by Pam for the Day in the Life Series.

Why Might I Get Sick Suddenly During Play?

Question is can you explain why she might throw up like that and what was going on for her - she is fine the next day and wanting to do it again -

30 Days of Submission: Day 30 - What Makes Submission Special?

What makes submission special to you?

How Master Took Control of the Finances

I belong to him completely today but when I look back, having him control all the money was the greatest submission for me to him.

Manners, Etiquette and Appropriateness When Interacting with People in the BDSM Scene

I am strongly attracted to my Dom despite his lack of fitness, however whenever he holds me down I can easily push him off if I want to, etc.

A Mentoring Checklist: What to Expect in a Mentor

I made the following printable chart which you can fill out and send to potential mentoring candidates to ensure clarity on both ends.