Those of you who read my blog already know this, but for most of you, this will be news. I have an addiction. At the end of last month, I came to the realization that I am a binge eater and secret eater. I'm addicted to food and the way it makes me feel. While I'm sure this may not be anything like a drug addiction or alcohol I don't have experience with them so I can't write about them. I can write about how my Master and I are dealing with this addiction and my recovery.
When I realized that I had been hiding this secret life of mine from Master I was terrified. I could be ending my relationship with him once I told him that I had been lying for months about what I had been doing out of his sight. Lying is a cardinal offense in our relationship, but I couldn't go on lying to him. He took it really hard but told me that he would help me get better and that we would be better. I was punished for the lying and immediately I knew he meant business when one of my new rules was that he would handle all the money. He took my debit and credit cards and all the available cash I had. I would have to ask for money to do anything and give him receipts when I returned home. He would start paying attention to everything I spent money on.
Let me tell you that I hated the idea that I couldn't grab a snack while at the store or a shake on the way home. I dreaded going to the grocery store or anywhere alone after that. What if I was weak and binged anyway and didn't care if he knew it? What if I just couldn't do it?
He's been very watchful. He tracks everything and asks me every day if I was good and didn't cheat. I'm honest with him about it. I will get better with his help and support. I think I have more likelihood of success with him than if I were doing it outside of a D/s dynamic. There is something about the way we function that gives me hope and I can't explain it. He is strict. He won't allow me to be lazy about it. He cares for my health and will make sure that I get the help that I can to beat this.
Moreso he will correct me if I do something that sets me back. Failure is not an option with him. Setbacks are meant to be corrected swiftly and then we figure out what will make it better.
I know that an eating disorder isn't treated the same way as alcoholism or a drug addiction. I can't just stop taking my drug of choice. I mean an alcoholic just learns not to drink alcohol, drug addicts break their habit. I just can't stop eating food. I have to learn to control the emotions I'm feeling while eating. I have to make sure that I'm eating at approved times and in approved portions. I will constantly be watching what I eat so that I don't overdo it.
I'm not handling it well. I like micromanagement but I hate this. I hate that I can't control this and that's why he has to micromanage me. I don't want to be this way forever. I just want to be healthy. I feel like a hypocrite when I write here. Like because I'm not a perfect submissive I don't have the right to write here and help you find your own way. Then I have to realize that this is one of the reasons that I make a good Guide. I have so many life experiences that I can associate with submission and hopefully, I can connect with some of you in each post. I'm not perfect and that's what makes me perfect for this blog.
I just had to get this off my chest.
I would love to know how others handle addictions while submitting to someone. What does it do to your relationship? Can you keep it strong or does it alter it negatively forever? Does anyone want to tell their story? I'll post it here on the blog. Just send it to me at email@example.com. You can be as anonymous as you'd like.