What NOT to Do and Say When Someone You Know is Uncollared

The intensely emotional end of a D/s relationship, where one no longer wears a collar can be a moment where you as a friend can shine, but keep in mind the consideration and delicate nature of bringing up a painful discussion. Let’s discuss some possible etiquette around a friend who has been recently uncollared.

The Concept of Ritual in D/s Relationships

What makes ritual different from habit? What is a ritual at its core? And how can we conceptualize it? Such questions can fuel hours of discussion, reflection, and of course, cogitation.

Suggest Some Tasks You Can Do While Your Dominant is Away

I think it’s an important way for us to stay connected and enforce that part of our relationship. It takes a bit of pre-planning on their part but the rewards are worth it. It makes the time away easier and allows us to stay connected, it’s not close to the same thing but it helps when we are separated. I think it’s a great way for anyone in an D/s relationship to stay connected whether it’s a long distance relationship or even if your partner is away for a day.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

When Worlds Collide: A Personal Story of Being Kinky in a Vanilla World

This was the first time our vanilla life and our kinky life had come into any sort of conflict, albeit mild. It seems as if the deeper into the lifestyle we get, the edges between the two worlds begin to blur.

Kink and Mental Health: The Ethics and Legality of Consent

One thing I've noticed, with regard to BDSM cases in the media, is that regardless whether or not the law allows for consent, it's usually the first question the media asks. Did the submissive consent to whatever gave the police cause to arrest and charge the dominant? Followed by the question of whether or not the submissive revoked said consent by use of safe word or some other agreed upon protocol.

Letting Go of the Bank Account - Submitting to Financial Control

Personally, I am not a very organized person and on top of that I'm lousy with numbers, always was, even in elementary school. If my check book was ever going to be balanced accordingly, someone else was just going to have to do it! Fortunately for my check book and I, my Dominant is better organized and more patient with a calculator, and even more fortunate for us he's very good at it.

Never Say Never: Overcoming Hard Limits

When absolute trust is present, and the dominant is interested and experienced in helping to overcome fears and phobias, working through hard limits can be very empowering.

There's No Size Limitation to Being Kinky

You do not have to be skinny to be accepted or to embrace submission. BDSM does not have a maximum size limit (or a minimum for that matter). Be you!

Learning Bimbofication: "Feeling Slutty" Feels Negative

My Master is into what is called, "bimbofication". I feel like my Master has done a great job with moving in baby steps, yet I still get overwhelmed. How can I stop from feeling overwhelmed by all these changes? How can I overcome associating feminine things with sluttiness?