Love, Honour and Obey: thisgirl's Getting Married!

I did not really want to wait when I realized how much I wanted to belong to him. I proposed to him. Well proposed the idea of him collaring me.

Why Safety is Preached to Novices and Why It's Important to Know Anyway

I believe that as you mature in your place in BDSM the often preached safety items can become obsolete or you may develop your own opinions that don't match what you were taught as a novice. There's nothing wrong with that, but knowing where you started and the importance of knowing these basic safety rules is that foundation.

How a Personal Protocol Can Aide Your Service

The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn't learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal growth.

I'd like to change that. A personal protocol can bring you ahead of the game, no matter where you are in your submissive journey. In this article I'd like to give you a working definition of a personal protocol, how you can develop one whether you are single or in a relationship and what it can do for you.

A Day in the Life: lunaKM

The day in the life of lunaKM. Part of the Day in the Life Series.

Lessons in Submissive Speech 11: Topics to Avoid with Other Submissives

There are some topics that are inappropriate even in our BDSM circles that we should respect. Gossip is a negative breeding ground for strife and drama.

Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

The slave resume is a snapshot of you - the services you thrive in, something you'd like to learn, S&M experiences/desires, interests, hobbies, in other words, you're sharing the highlights of yourself that you desire to find a compatible match for.

Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

As a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to escape from it; rarely do I enjoy sub space because it separates me from the pain. I want to feel it, embrace it and hold it close. I've learned a few important skills that push those pain boundaries and bring me further into a sadist’s grasp. The most valuable of those skills is visualization.

Pain Play Discussed Online - Explore The Variety of Views

Some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more about pain play.

30 Days of Submission: Day 15 - My Evolution as a Submissive

Has your submission evolved over time?

The Best Books for a Novice Submissive

There are a lot of books out there related to BDSM and being a novice submissive.