Butt Plugs for Training and Pleasure

I'm going to share the secrets of my success with wearing anal toys for long periods of time--by which I mean anywhere from an hour or two to overnight.

4 Things to Look for in a BDSM Mentor

In BDSM it is sometimes recommended to newbies to pick up a mentor but they are never given the tools to find a mentor that is right for them. I know that when I first started out there were good people to be around and not so great people that left their mark on me. There are a few things I'd like you to look for the next time you seek out a mentor for your life.

Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

Every goal we want to set requires three things to have a chance at working. We need the right time in our lives, planning and follow through. Lack just one of these things and we will not reach those dreams of ours.

So, you may be wondering why I'm covering this topic on a submissive newsletter. Every day I set goals for myself; be more obedient, remember to reply to requests and commands appropriately, research a certain topic to better understand it, practice my stretching so that I can be more flexible, etc. All of these things are to improve my submission. Hopefully you are setting small goals for yourself too. At the end of this essay, I'd like to challenge you to set a few goals for yourself and your submission. Let's see some wonderful changes in you!

The Secret to Better Submission Every Day

I've compiled a few things that I've learned that make the way I submit more fulfilling and improved at every turn of the clock. Take what you can from these and make them work for you.

Solo Coaching - Glass Half Empty or Half Full: Working on a Positive Point of View

Did you know that how you see the world isn't what makes your life positive or negative, it's how you interpret your life's events that can turn the glass half full to half empty? Your skill in interpreting events and experiences for better or worse lies in your hands.

So You Want to Share Your Kink with Your Vanilla Partner - What You Need to Know

I want my partner to be Dominant/submissive but I’m afraid they’ll judge me or leave me if I tell them.

Tips for Taking Care of Your BDSM and Sex Toys

If you follow some simple guidelines you will be able to keep your BDSM and sex toys safe and extend their life expectancy.

Safewords During Disciplinary Punishment: Yay or Nay?

My opinion on whether safewords should be allowed during punishment (for misbehavior).

31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 4: What Can a Journal Do for My Submissive Development?

Let's do an activity to figure out how a personal journal can help you in your submissive development.

An Open Letter to Everyone Who Wants to Know What a D/s Relationship is Supposed to Look Like

When people ask me what a D/s relationship is like, my first thought is that it is 'like any other relationship,' but that's not entirely accurate. Let me tell you what the common misconceptions are and then we can talk about the reality of a D/s relationship. You may be surprised to learn that they aren't as foreign as you think.