The Formal Collar

The Formal Collar is offered by the Dominant with the intent to formalize the bond and attachment between themselves and their submissive. It is a recognition of commitment, deep emotional feelings, devotion, mutual respect, and consideration. It expresses a belief that the Dominant and submissive share similar ideals and a genuine and growing desire to share each other’s lives over perhaps the rest of their lives.

Submissive on Your Own Terms: Analyzing The One True Way

There are those who believe that there is only one way to be submissive. Mistress Steel challenges those thoughts with critical thinking, to open up the idea that submission is personal and varied.

Submitting Is Not Without Personal Responsibility

A common mistake that many submissives make is to assume that giving up control also means giving up the responsibility to themselves and to the situation. A submissive shares equal responsibility for any consequences - good or bad - that occur as a result of consensual play or activities.

A Slap in the Face: Exploring Face Slapping in BDSM

A slap can say a lot of things, given the circumstances and the parties involved. To some, a slap in the face can say “I love you.” It can say, “you've fucked up.” It can say any number of things in between. But something it will always convey is “you're Mine.” The control and the ownership that is inherent in that one motion can be overwhelming. He loves me enough to discipline me when I need it.

An Introduction to Body Service

One of the more intimate ways that we submissives can serve our Dominants is by learning and performing grooming duties usually left to themselves to do.

A Day in the Life: bonimiss

This is a post by bonimiss for the Day in the Life Series.

Submissive Advent - Day 3: The Wise Words

Spend about 5 minutes thinking about the advice you have received from others about life in general, living as a submissive or searching for a Dominant. How has it helped you grow and why does that advice keep coming back to you?

Submissive Advent - Day 9: Joy in Accomplishment

Are you happy?

Submissive Advent - Day 16: Prayer

A Submissive's Prayer

Author Unknown

Allow me the strength to answer questions I can't fathom. Allow me the spirit to know His needs. Allow me the kindness to choke back retorts. Allow me the serenity to serve Him in peace.