Keeping the mindset of a "perpetual student" ensures we are open to the gifts education has to offer to our community and us. Here's why maintaining a "perpetual student" outlook is so important to kink, both in our personal lives and in the community.
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As a submissive, one of the first things you will be asked by almost every Dom/me is: what are your limits? You will encounter this sometimes in chat, in play, and when negotiating a relationship with a new Dom/me. If you are playing with a new Dom/me and aren’t asked this question, my advice is not to play with the person. I have heard Dom/mes say that They don’t play with safe words or limits because They know what They are doing. How can a Dom/me know if you have health issues or triggers or are just plain terrified of something unless you tell them?
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Whether you are kinky only in the bedroom or participating in D/s as a lifestyle, developing rituals for your BDSM play is an intimate and powerful way to connect. Using rituals will strengthen your roles, build dynamic scenes, and amplify your playtime to create the ideal atmosphere for BDSM activities.
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Oftentimes, with novice submissives, it is assumed that showing any sort of desire for something that was not suggested by the Dominant would be topping from the bottom. Let me tell you now, having desires and asking for them to be fulfilled is not topping from the bottom.
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When you first enter the more public BDSM community one of the largest catch phrases you will here is SSC, also known as Safe, Sane and Consensual. It is a security blanket approach to safety when playing and negotiation of play. As a submissive, you have a lot of responsibility to keeping yourself safe and well.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt's not my intention to scare you or convince you that you shouldn't have a safeword. but don't ever expect your safeword to protect you. You can not have safewords without trust.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThere are three pain processing methods we are going to talk about today. They are acceptance, denial and devouring. Two of these methods are very common, and the third while being rare happens to be where pure masochists place themselves.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhen we enter into a play session the goal is the positive experience so we'll talk about the negative ways we try to process pain that will be a detriment to your enjoyment of the scene and may cause your sadist partner to not enjoy themselves as much either.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI hate lying to him but I don't feel like I had a choice. I don't know what to do.
Read The Article | Find SimilarPlaying comes with dangers and risks. Making sure you are going to be as safe as you wish to be is up to you. That's where safewords come in.
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