Discipline or Punishment - Which is it?

Exploring differences in discipline and punishment, Mistress Steel provides some basic definitions to help you decide which purpose you’re going for in your situation.

The Impact of Velcro Collars on the Symbolism and Value of Collars in D/s Relationships

To submissives, a collar is one of the most important things they have. It is a symbol of their commitment, their service and their adoration of a special someone. In most situations, the offering or begging of a collar is not taken lightly. The weight of the matter could mean a lifetime of service, the same importance of engagement or marriage and strict adherence to rules and behaviors. However, just as there are people who go through mates like tissues, there are submissives and Dominants alike that use Velcro collars. These collars have practically no meaning to them and they hand them out or give them back without so much as a blink of the eye.

Thoughts on Public Vanilla Acceptable Collars

Does one know how to obtain collars that do not look like collars..so one can be worn at all time with out so called vanilla’s asking about it…?

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

A List of National BDSM Events - Attend One, or Two, or Three

Go to an event they said. But they never said what events exist. Well now you have no excuse. Here’s a short list of regional and national, and even some international events pertaining to BDSM and the kink lifestyle.

30 Days of Submission: Day 18 - Communicating Needs and Wants

How does communication factor into your submission and how do you communicate your desires and needs?

30 Days of Submission: Day 24 - Emotional Connection to Submission

What are the emotions that most directly let you access submission?

[Free Printable] Creating a Drop Kit

I've put together some of the best suggested things to have on hand and to do when you experience sub drop! I hope it helps you in your times of need.

What Do I Do While I Wait for a Response from My Long Distance Dominant?

What do I do with myself when I'm waiting for my Master to respond to my messages?

Book Review: Power Circuits by Raven Kaldera

Power Circuits is a book about polyamory in a power dynamic relationship. If you are in a power dynamic relationship and are thinking of possibly opening up your dynamic to include polyamory, then this book is a must read for all parties involved.