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The Basic Tenets of Being a Submissive in a D/s Dynamic

If you’re brand new to BDSM or even if you’ve got a few years under your belt, it’s good to sit down and figure out what submission means for you and how it works in your dynamic. Once you know what you need as a submissive, you can work with your Dominant to make your D/s relationship exactly what you desire.

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When Is It Okay to Top From the Bottom?

Topping from the bottom has been given a bad wrap. It's considered by many to be a faux pax for any submissive. Online communities shun and shame many people who even ask about the subject and want to know if what they did was considered wrong. Too many people tell these people that yes it was wrong even if it really isn't. Today I'd like to tell you that there are a few perfectly valid situations where topping from the bottom is not only necessary but welcome. That's right, the fear of topping from the bottom doesn't have to bring fear to the heart of a submissive.

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Trust is a Five Letter Word

A D/s relationship with a basis of trust has a lot of responsibility in both parties to uphold that trust and to not belie it. Honesty is a form of trust and the most common violation of that trust that I have encountered in my time as a submissive and talking with others.

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Perspectives: Gags

Being introduced to a ball gag was a scary thing for me. But no one ever warned me of the feeling of drool dripping down your chin. As with other Perspectives posts I wanted to share with you how it feels as a submissive exploring gags

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A Submissive's New Year's Resolutions: Letting Go and Offering Forgiveness

Letting go is not an easy thing to do. Offering forgiveness is even harder.

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Understanding Vocal and Nonvocal Safe Words for Safe Play

When the intensity of activities go up it's not uncommon for tops and bottoms alike to lose the ability to communicate clearly. So, something developed to help us is safewords.

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How to Ask for Play and Why It's So Hard For Submissives To Do

For many of us, coming out and saying we want play feels like we are topping from the bottom, stepping out of our submissive boundaries and doing something that isn't in our character. But I'm here to tell you that it isn't.

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Online Submissive Without Any Direction

With many online relationships, directions are not as clear since you don't get any nonverbal cues to a conversation as you would in a face to face relationship. I'm going to try to cover your concerns as best as I can.

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Learn How To Trust Your Dominant Partner Again After An Affair

Your partner cheated on you, but you want to repair the relationship and restore the trust. How do you do that?

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Contracts as a Road Map to Ever-Evolving Dynamics

A written contract is a tool, simple as that. The written contract is not just useful to new dynamics trying to create a roadmap of new Power Exchange dynamic; it can help prevent problems up ahead and provide a lovely reminder of how far you've traveled together.

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