In this BDSM Glossary series I help you understand some of the common and less common words and phrases used throughout the BDSM community.
Watch The Video | Find SimilarThe core of BDSM is consent. No one will disagree with this. We are all aware, hopefully, that abuse is not consensual. If you feel that what is going on is ‘not right’ then you certainly should investigate if it is abuse or not. Some of what you may feel could not be abuse at all, but it’s good to know for sure. Learn how you can see the differences for yourself.
Read The Series | Find SimilarA healthy BDSM relationship is one where people exchange power, sensations or experiences in a consensual, mutually fullfilling way. These exchanges increase self-esteem and all parties are are actively invested in the well-being of their partners and themselves.
Read The Article | Find SimilarOnce you start in training you have a better chance to evaluate your new Dom/me. Is the Dom creating a positive learning environment, or does s/he make you feel that you are constantly failing his/her orders? Was it really a newbie mistake, or is there a lack of training that is causing the failure? Submission can easily set up a feeling of need and dependency on the Dom/me.
Read The Article | Find SimilarBDSM relationships make the argument on abuse much more complicated than it already is, and those in TPE relationship have an even harder time than that. For non-kinky people, it's pretty easy to define abuse. How do you define abuse if the way the dictionary defines it just does not apply to you?
Read The Article | Find SimilarIn all BDSM exchanges, there is a level of consent and negotiation that happened prior to the activity or relationship. This also includes punishment.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarI am going to tell you, on no uncertain terms that if your dominant is hurting you out of anger this is abusive.
Read The Article | Find SimilarSo, why are people transfixed by it and using it as a new sex manual in their relationships and marriages?
Read The Article | Find SimilarFor fear of angering him I submit and abide by this punishment, leaving me more stressed I have fallen in love with my dom, I am not allowed to call him by name. I feel I m pushed up against a wall at all times. What should I do?
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