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Going to the Doctor with Kink-Related Marks or Bruises

It's happened to the best of us. You and your partner got a little frisky the other day and now you have a few bruises that haven't faded yet. Your Doctor's appointment is this afternoon, what do you do?

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Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of a Predator Dom/me Part 2

Once you start in training you have a better chance to evaluate your new Dom/me. Is the Dom creating a positive learning environment, or does s/he make you feel that you are constantly failing his/her orders? Was it really a newbie mistake, or is there a lack of training that is causing the failure? Submission can easily set up a feeling of need and dependency on the Dom/me.

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Safety Mantra Comparison Chart

Do you adhere to SSC or RACK? Perhaps PRICK is more your style? Have you heard of CCC? I've put together a comparison chart so you can learn a bit more of the variety of safety mantras often used in BDSM communities to identify safety measures and responsibility of participants.

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Safewords

A safeword is a vocal brake in play; one that typically halts play completely, but can also be one where slowing down is the direction. It is a simple word or phrase that requires very little thought process to utter as a sign of distress or caution. Understand how to select your safeword and why it’s important in the following articles.

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Safewords Are Not "Safe Words"

Playing comes with dangers and risks. Making sure you are going to be as safe as you wish to be is up to you. That's where safewords come in.

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Safewords Don't Automatically Mean You're Safe

There are lots of reasons and issues which propelled the existence of the Safe Word in the BDSM community. Many were quite valid and useful to distinguish the community from its ugly cousin ‘physical abuse’. The issue of consent being the bottomline.

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Safewords During Disciplinary Punishment: Yay or Nay?

My opinion on whether safewords should be allowed during punishment (for misbehavior).

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Showing Face: Adult Photos and Privacy Protection in the Online Kinky Community

For a long time though I really was not comfortable with showing my face in any fetish pictures since i was partly worried about the risk of being outed and also because I wanted to be anonymous within the scene as well.

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Some Issues with Consensuality

As in most things, the meaning of consent is far from simple.

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Submissive Positions

Submissive Positions are talked about all over like everyone is supposed to be doing them or something. Not every relationship is set up to provide that level of protocol and you should never expect a relationship to automatically have that. If you are interested in positions, ask your partner or prospective partner if they’d be interested before you go learning any. They may have preferences to how you should look and act. Following them is by far more important than learning about positions online (unless that is their direction).

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Submitting Is Not Without Personal Responsibility

A common mistake that many submissives make is to assume that giving up control also means giving up the responsibility to themselves and to the situation. A submissive shares equal responsibility for any consequences - good or bad - that occur as a result of consensual play or activities.

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