Can You Be a Boss and a Submissive?

For those in-charge, controlling, decision-making people who recognize that they’re submissive, it’s not that you can or will (or should) submit to just anyone. We submit to the person who earns our trust and confidence. Being in control of one thing does not mean we can’t surrender to someone in our relationships.

2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions - Day 13: Customizing and Altering Positions

Today I'd like us to brainstorm ideas for how someone can alter the positions and still hold grace and etiquette at a high standard. It is possible to not follow the 'Gorean' style positions that everyone seems to favor and still look good. For the brainstorming, you will need creative time alone and a desire to work on the positions you want to incorporate but feel incapable of doing.

What is the "Spirit of the Rule"

So, what is the Spirit of the Rule? It is the underlying foundation of the rule. The reason the rule exists.

How to Get Started With Sexting and Mobile Kink

Everyone I've talked to says they enjoy a bit of naughty texting here and there. Others like to employ the camera phone for proof that a kinky deed was carried out or for some semi-private exhibitionism. It can be employed for a training tool or a way to stir desires in anticipation for the return to each other.

Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

Every goal we want to set requires three things to have a chance at working. We need the right time in our lives, planning and follow through. Lack just one of these things and we will not reach those dreams of ours.

So, you may be wondering why I'm covering this topic on a submissive newsletter. Every day I set goals for myself; be more obedient, remember to reply to requests and commands appropriately, research a certain topic to better understand it, practice my stretching so that I can be more flexible, etc. All of these things are to improve my submission. Hopefully you are setting small goals for yourself too. At the end of this essay, I'd like to challenge you to set a few goals for yourself and your submission. Let's see some wonderful changes in you!

Learn to Love The Body You Have - Submissive Meditation Monday

Everyone, no matter what they look like, should feel good about the body they have and not constantly wish they were different.

Ethical BDSM Falls on Both Sides of the Slash

Each partner is responsible for making a relationship ethical. No matter what side of the slash you fall on.

How To Understand The Grief Process for a Dominant Who Passed Away

Your grief will take as long as it takes. Here are the five steps to the grief process and further support for grieving and loss.