Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

There are things you can do to help you prevent some or all of the symptoms of sub drop. Taking care of yourself after you play is a personal responsibility that I wish more submissives would take upon themselves.

Without His Collar: How This Happened and What I’m Learning About Myself

My submission stopped being something I did for me. It all began to become what he wanted and how he wanted it. My life stopped being mine and more and more a shadow of his. I want to be submissive. I want to be KnyghtMare’s submissive. Only time will tell.

What NOT to Share on Your Online Profile

We all have one somewhere. FetLife being all the rage right now, but also we have alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com, and others where we place ads and identity profiles up to get people interested. This interest can be friends or relationship related; it doesn't matter. What does matter is what we broadcast to everyone that happens across our profiles? You need to keep some things secure and really consider what's necessary to put out into the World Wide Web.

Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

Every goal we want to set requires three things to have a chance at working. We need the right time in our lives, planning and follow through. Lack just one of these things and we will not reach those dreams of ours.

So, you may be wondering why I'm covering this topic on a submissive newsletter. Every day I set goals for myself; be more obedient, remember to reply to requests and commands appropriately, research a certain topic to better understand it, practice my stretching so that I can be more flexible, etc. All of these things are to improve my submission. Hopefully you are setting small goals for yourself too. At the end of this essay, I'd like to challenge you to set a few goals for yourself and your submission. Let's see some wonderful changes in you!

The Bare Necessities of a Total Power Exchange Relationship

What do I absolutely have to have in order for my submission to him to be fulfilling and rewarding? What makes our relationship work after 6 years and with no hint of failing?

What Does "Breaking a Slave" Mean?

It certainly seems that as slaves, we do pass a point where the major force of our resistance and self-defensive mechanisms, the shell, is broken, and we enter a state of pliancy and moldability for our owners.

Am I Submitting or Not?

Here's are my questions. I have been communicating with a Dom for about two months and he insists that I am not submitting at all. I disagree but I wonder if I am afraid to submit. Is this normal? Secondly, he said that if I decide to submit I need to express it in a well thought out email. Any suggestions on what that email should say?

Ask the Readers - Looking for Signals During Play

What signals do Tops look for during play that display to them that you are having a good time? Come share your thoughts!

31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 13: How to Decide on Public or Private Blogging

The pros and cons of having a private journal or a public blog. Which will you choose? Either way - choose wisely.

BDSM and Kids: How Your Kink May Change Over the Years

like a non-kinky relationship, your desire for and ability to have sex will change through the different stages of parenting. Don’t worry or freak out. Realize this is normal, and if you’re determined to enjoy as much kink as possible, get creative and be patient with yourself and your partner.