Oftentimes, with novice submissives, it is assumed that showing any sort of desire for something that was not suggested by the Dominant would be topping from the bottom. Let me tell you now, having desires and asking for them to be fulfilled is not topping from the bottom.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI'm fairly new to caning, but I've discovered that I like it a lot (even if I can't take as much as some people can). I was afraid of canes for a long time because I had heard they're rough pain-wise. While I like pain I'm not truly a pain slut. And it's true, they are rough - the impact is concentrated along one thin area. But I find that a caning puts me into subspace wonderfully, perhaps better than any other implement.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIf your only view of BDSM is the online community then you could believe that BDSM and being kinky is a huge playground and that a lot of people participate in it openly. And you’d be wrong. While a a good portion of the US population admits they are kinky (10% according to NCSF) most of those are not going to participate in a BDSM community or step further than silk blindfolds and light bondage.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt's always a good thing to look at your submission from different viewpoints and to reassess why you are in the role that you are. It's how we grow and change. It's how we see what's working and what isn't.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarAsk one hundred submissives why they consider topping from the bottom as bad and they will likely come up with something relating to "forcing the Dominant's hand." They'd be right. The real, honest to goodness, truth is that forcing the Dominant's hand is the only way you can bottom-top. How you do that is situational, different for different people or different reasons and you really can't list the exact ways that it comes about.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhile I can't say that everyone takes a break it's good to know that we can without it being the end of our submission altogether. I hope you will forever remain happy, on whatever phase of submission you are currently in.
Read The Article | Find SimilarOnce you open up to allowing yourself to ask for what you want you will find so many more doors open for you.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI've been there. I know how it hurts, how frustrated you feel.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt's not just about the lesson that the Dominant is trying to teach you, but for yourself; how to repair faith in yourself and your chosen submission, how to lift the guilt and how to humbly move on in apology, progress, and recovery.
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