I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me.
With great joy can come great frustration. No matter the pleasures we experience in play with our partners, there comes a time that the pre-planning, the after care and the attention you get just aren't enough. Sub drop comes calling.
We've all been there a time or two. I know I've had quite a few run-ins with sub drop in my experience. Some aren't much to talk about and still others were horrible experiences I'd like to avoid. But once we start experiencing sub drop, it's unavoidable.
I've been there. I know how it hurts, how frustrated you feel. Your body aches, your head spins and all you want to do is curl up in your favorite chair and sleep (or cry). Perhaps there's doubt and confusion over what you just engaged in. How could it be fun when I have bruises the next day? Does my partner still love me after how wanton I acted? Am I cut out for BDSM/submission? How can this be right?
The madness of sub drop will fade. You will recover. It's in us to question how we feel when we feel bad about something. That doesn't make us less submissive or weak. All we can do is hold on. Hold on to the pleasure, the joy, and happiness of submitting. Remember with a smile, the fun you had and the look on your partner's face when things had come to a climax. It was good, it was intimate, it was exciting and it was grand. All of these things do not give any indication that you are a bad person or that your feeling down now is a result of anything other than the chemical drop in our bodies.
Spend some time today thinking about the last experience of sub drop for you. When it manifested did you know what to do? Where you comforted in knowing that you in the right place in your life? Did you shower yourself with more aftercare and affirmations?
Make a point to do that the next time.
Because there will be a next time. You can't avoid sub drop. You can help lessen its sting, but if your body responds poorly to the drop in adrenaline and endorphins from the play you will have a period of drop.
But don't let that stop you from enjoying who you are and who you are becoming! Sub drop is fleeting and when cared for leaves no lasting effects. We learn how to manage it like a bad headache and then move on. You can too.