Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Like anything else, one has to learn to go with the flow and take the highs with the lows. I hope that any beginners, and even those who are well experienced will continue the sometimes rocky journey despite the aspects of the lifestyle that can destroy and fully embrace the aspects of the lifestyle that can nourish it.

Does Online Submissive Training Work?

Yes, online training can work if you both are honest with each other and trust that you will only get out of it what you put in.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

Exploring Endorphins from Pain Play for the First Time - A Point of View

I've always thought of myself as a complete wuss when it comes to pain. So it stands to reason that when I first started exploring the lifestyle, my fascination with all things painful was greatly tempered with uncertainty.

Using Your Fear for Better Submissive Growth

Just because we have fears doesn't mean we have to let the fears dictate our actions or responses. This means we need to be vigilant with our emotions. By this I don't mean controlling them, it is important to feel negative emotions as well as positive ones, we don't want to repress our negative emotions but rather be aware of them and how they can affect us.

What is Kajira?

I am Kajira. I am a slave. First off that makes me a tool to be used at my Master’s every whim. Whether that is for sexual pleasure, for comfort, for massage, or just to sit in position as commanded.

When Kids Find Your Sex Toys - A Story

In this lifestyle, if you are living it, you take your chances with kids seeing or sensing things. And you learn to be careful and private too. But prepare yourself for the possibility of being outed. It can happen no matter how careful you are.

Two Bodies Revolving Around a Core: The Slow Dance of a BDSM Long-Distance Relationship

We live in a world where some of us living on the planet are lucky enough to have access to the technology that makes the distance seem tiny.

Overcoming a Limit (A Reflection)

Overcoming limits is a part of the journeys we take as subs. It’s a healthy, often invigorating challenge.

Are You Cut Out to Be Submissive?

Not everyone is capable of being submissive. It is even possible that you are not really cut out for it. We all have different thresholds for what we can and can't do, but realizing we can't be submissive isn't the end of the world. Great, so how do you know if you can be submissive or not?