Solo-Coaching: Three Key Elements to Fire Your Motivation for Change as a Submissive

We all aspire to improve our lives and wish to take on the challenge to make those changes, but quickly we’ll realize that motivation is the key to that change. You can’t become a better submissive if you don’t have the motivation to make those changes.

Active Submission Means Always Improving Yourself

Being effective in submission should make you happy in your life. Far too many times I see novices and experienced submissives floundering and wondering how to make their Owner happy without a thought to how to make themselves happy too.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

How to Make the Most Out of Your Bedroom BDSM

Bedroom BDSM is the most common form of BDSM relationship there is. Let's talk about how to make your bedroom only BDSM relationship special.

Domestic Challenge of the Day - Cooking for a Picky Dominant

Do you have a Dominant that you are finding hard to please both of your palettes? Then you aren't alone. One of the most common differences in partnerships is food preferences and people's opinions about foods. I've come up with ways to work around the limits placed on me when I cook and I thought I'd share a few of them here.

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

It is okay to miss someone you loved. It is okay to reflect upon the relationship. The trouble lies when it becomes an obsession.

4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He's a Dominant

Please consider the following situations as a wake up call if you are in a relationship where you're feeling used or disrespected. Being a Dominant does not give them an automatic "be a dick" card.

What To Do When You’re Unhappy in Your D/s Relationship

How to effect change when your D/s relationship leaves your unfulfilled, confused and miserable starts with communication. But Kayla has more advice for you if that doesn't work.

Bullet Journal: BDSM Scene Reflection Spreads

Using your bullet journal to create scene reflection spreads is a great way to cement memories and your own feelings of the play you engage in. Here are two spread designs that you could use.