Being bad will garner negative consequences while being a brat with someone who wants a brat can often lead to fun play, bantering and a closer connection with their Dominant. Let's explore the other differences.
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Balance is mostly about feeling fulfilled but not overwhelmed. It feels like the dynamic can live in harmony with the other aspects of daily life. How that is achieved will vary based on the wishes of those involved in the dynamic.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIn this video series, I define terms that readers have asked me about! This one is the comparison of funishment and punishment. Do you have a term you'd like defined? Let me know.
Watch The Video | Find SimilarYou've met the perfect person; they are strict and charming, their dominance is a perfect compliment to your submission. There is just one hang-up. They are shorter than you, or they could be smaller in stature than you. Could there be an issue with your ability to submit to someone that can't overpower you physically or that you can't gaze into their eyes from below?
Read The Article | Find SimilarI believe that the feminist movement can move in parallel to what submission is to the D/s world. It's about making choices, even if the choice is to not have any choices.
Read The Article | Find SimilarOnce you start in training you have a better chance to evaluate your new Dom/me. Is the Dom creating a positive learning environment, or does s/he make you feel that you are constantly failing his/her orders? Was it really a newbie mistake, or is there a lack of training that is causing the failure? Submission can easily set up a feeling of need and dependency on the Dom/me.
Read The Article | Find SimilarAge or experience, particularly of the Dominant seems to always been in question no matter where you are. You hear it in forums, at munches and casual gatherings. So much of what we do hinges on that little bit of information. For many submissives that I'm acquainted with, there is no question that experience is important to them. For others, they could never see themselves with someone who isn't their own age no matter their experience level. What is it about those two numbers that make them so important?
Read The Article | Find SimilarMany submissive men have fantasies which have been developed over many years, sometimes leading to a focus on extreme and/or specific situations despite not having experienced anything. This may lead to misunderstandings with potential partners between fantasies and actual desires as the sub man may not even be able to recognize the difference at first.
Read The Article | Find SimilarOne of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive?
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt’s so important as an s-type to be authentic. If you want to submit, if you want to serve, those desires have to come from the heart. I know it’s not always easy to be as authentic as we would like, but it’s something we must keep striving for.
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