Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One?

When do you know you are ready for a collar? What's the value in a collar really? And how can you get one?

How To Find Someone to Play With at a Party and Other Negotiation Basics

One of the more daunting prospects as a single kinky person or someone who is open to casual play is approaching others at a play party with whom you might be interested playing. It’s often called pick up play because you are simply trying to pick someone up for the purpose of play. Whether you are a top or a bottom, the cold approach is scary. But there is help!

10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

Many of the things we do when it comes to BDSM and D/s relationships seem to come faster than in a traditional relationship, so often we forget that the base of a D/s relationship is a traditional one. You are still two people that plan to cohabitate. With that comes decisions and plans, change and adjustment periods.

In the first list of tips, I want to give I'm going to cover the more basic 'vanilla' ideas that will make your submissive more comfortable as they move into your home. The second list is BDSM based tips that will hopefully start your relationship on a good footing now that you are living under the same roof.

Getting Started with Exploring Erotic Hypnosis

The idea of hypnotism always frightened me a little. I never thought it was entertaining to watch someone go up on stage and act like a chicken or in some other humiliating way. My Master, however, was intrigued by the idea of using hypnotism in our M/s relationship. I have always felt somewhat self-conscious with role playing and acting out fantasies, so Master thought of hypnotism as a way to relax me and make me feel less self-conscious.

Am I Trying Hard Enough? Learning How to Make the Most of Your Inner Submissive Voice

That inner nagging voice that never goes away can be both a good thing and a bad thing. It can help you remember your focus but it can also drive you insane if you’re not careful

Being a Single Submissive in a Couple's World

Being a single submissive can be a special time in your exploration and development.

What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, "You Need Training"

When a Dominant tells you that you need training, what does he really mean?

Submissive Frenzies: When You Want It All RIGHT NOW!

Many aspects of BDSM are similar to addictions and Frenzies can be considered to be the 'withdrawal' stage. The peculiar thing about this is that a submissive need not ever have engaged in a real life D/s BDSM experience to actually go into this state of need

When Needs Change: How Communication Worked When My Partner Didn't Want to Be Dominant Anymore

Through open communication and the ability to listen to one another, we were able to come to a conclusion that met both of our needs.

Polyamory Resources From Around the Web

I hope people who are interested in exploring polyamorous relationships find this list of resources helpful.