Hard and Soft Limits? The Sooner You Know About Them The Better

As a submissive, one of the first things you will be asked by almost every Dom/me is: what are your limits? You will encounter this sometimes in chat, in play, and when negotiating a relationship with a new Dom/me. If you are playing with a new Dom/me and aren’t asked this question, my advice is not to play with the person. I have heard Dom/mes say that They don’t play with safe words or limits because They know what They are doing. How can a Dom/me know if you have health issues or triggers or are just plain terrified of something unless you tell them?

10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

Many of the things we do when it comes to BDSM and D/s relationships seem to come faster than in a traditional relationship, so often we forget that the base of a D/s relationship is a traditional one. You are still two people that plan to cohabitate. With that comes decisions and plans, change and adjustment periods.

In the first list of tips, I want to give I'm going to cover the more basic 'vanilla' ideas that will make your submissive more comfortable as they move into your home. The second list is BDSM based tips that will hopefully start your relationship on a good footing now that you are living under the same roof.

How to Write a Submissive Life Mission Statement

A life mission statement is a way of saying, "these are my goals and code of conduct for how I want to live my life." There is no wrong or right way to write one but there are several steps that can bring you to a workable statement that will help give you focus and direction to your life.

The Returning a Collar After a Break Up

I decided to return the collar with the same regard in which it was presented. Traditionally, a collar is offered with a great deal of significance for the persons and the relationship they share. But in the heat of emotion, we may not think to return one in the same reverent manner which it was accepted. So, I took it upon myself to rise above the childish feelings I could have so easily resorted to.

Conquer Me Book Club - Week 1

Hi everyone! I hope that you have had time to read the first section of the book club book, "Conquer Me" by Kacie Cunningham.

Being a Single Submissive in a Couple's World

Being a single submissive can be a special time in your exploration and development.

31 Days to Better Domestic Service: Reducing Clutter to Maximize Cleaning Efforts

Clutter. Your house has piles of things, disorganized, under used and dusty. You may not know where to put some of the things you've collected or the pile just keeps growing as you forget to put things away. Either way you slice it, you have a problem.

Learn How To Trust Your Dominant Partner Again After An Affair

Your partner cheated on you, but you want to repair the relationship and restore the trust. How do you do that?