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The Importance of Safety, Risk-Awareness and Consent in Pre-Scene BDSM Negotiation

Negotiation and consent are the primary ways BDSM is distinguished from abuse - they are essential parts of kinky play. But far too many people gloss over how important it is to be really good at negotiating so that you can have great kinky fun. And you want to have kinky fun, right?

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Dirty Talk

When someone says “Talk dirty to me baby…” in the bedroom the hopefully-soon-to-be dirty talker instantly freezes like a soaking wet roll of toilet paper being thrown out of an igloo in Antarctica.What should you say? What do they want you to say? What if you say too much? What if you say too little?

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Disabled? Ideas on How You Can Still Enjoy BDSM When Impaired

There are many Dominants and submissives with varying degrees of disability or other physical problems that, to some extent, leave them handicapped. It is quite possible to scene from both sides despite such impairments. However, some key things should be addressed.

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Discipline and Punishment

Discipline comes in all shapes and sizes.It is a part of molding a submissive’s behavior and making corrections when they step out of line. Punishment though is a different beast. Punishment is for very severe infractions. I consider this to be things that could be deal breakers or relationship-enders. Punishment of this caliber should be rare or not at all. These differences are discussed and explored in the following series.

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Discipline or Punishment - Which is it?

Exploring differences in discipline and punishment, Mistress Steel provides some basic definitions to help you decide which purpose you’re going for in your situation.

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Discretion in the BDSM Community - Anonymity and Personal Privacy Concerns

How safe are BDSM groups for people in high profile careers and the risk of being exposed? It's a valid concern for anyone that seeks outside support and knowledge so I thought I'd share with you what I had to say to this person.

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DIY BDSM Toy Instructions Online

I’ve started a list of all the places online where you can find instructions for DIY projects to fill your dungeon. Many are very cost efficient. I recommend looking at all of them!

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DIY: How to Make a Duct Tape Flogger

I was inspired by another blogger who posted that they had made a flogger out of duct tape (blog now defunct). I could do that! And I did.

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DIY: Knife & Blood Play

Knife and Blood play, as you can probably guess, comes with a lot of intrinsic danger - so before embarking in this type of play, you need to make sure that you have an adequate safety kit ready.

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Do Bottoms Have a Bad Rap Among Submissives?

When we think of bottoms or have interactions with bottoms, there are many negative connotations that come to mind.

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Don't Embarrass Yourself: Learn the Etiquette for Play Parties Before You Go

Each social situation we expose ourselves to has it's own set of rules and behaviors. This is also true of BDSM events, perhaps even moreso. A play party will have different rules at each location you may attend one. There will be established rules as well as house/location rules. There are also unspoken rules that many relationships have in place. Let's cover some of each category.

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