Love is a wonderful experience, because it’s the only emotion in the world that can bring you happiness when you give something away. Every time we feel an overwhelming surge of affection for our lovers, we want to do something special for them, just to let them know how much they mean to us and how much we care about them. Romance is the way we shower affection on our lover and show them how you feel about them.

When you think of the way romance is portrayed in the media what comes to mind? Candle-lit dinners? Snuggling at the theatre, flowers and candy, soft tender kisses?

Romance: a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love

So when you want to engage in a kink filled relationship, can you still have romance? What romance just might be redefined when you explore a kinky relationship. Nothing says you can’t have those romantic moments when you take on D/s roles, but it could include things that mainstream doesn’t consider romantic. Those romantic feelings can strengthen your relationship and ignite a fire in the bedroom.

Kinky Romance Ideas

These romantic tips are a twist on the standard ideas of romance to add a bit of kinky fun to your relationship.

      Get away. Nothing says romance and kink than planning a vacation outing to a BDSM bed and breakfast or a kink convention in a hotel.

      Candlelight dinner. While candles for dinner are great for mood lighting (and you look sexy in candlelight), if you purchase body-safe candles like soy or paraffin, you can then drip them on your partner’s skin and have them for dessert!

      Little gifts. Gifts don’t have to be expensive or be exceptionally meaningful. Every little gift you give will show your partner that they are on your mind. If you want to make it a kinky nod, you could get a new sex toy, such as a crop or a pair of nipple clamps for example.

      Massages. Never overrated and can go in any direction you desire, from a calming, relaxing back massage, to a full service sensual massage. Add a blindfold and some warm scented oil and your partner will squirm with delight.

      Love letters. Love letters are the kind of romantic ideas that can last a lifetime because they’re so special and meaningful. It doesn’t matter if you have no clue about how to write one. All you need to do is put pen to paper and just let your words flow. Before you know it, you will have expressed just how you feel about your partner and how happy you are to have them in your life.

      Photobooks. Creating photo albums of your favorite moments together is sweet and romantic and can last a lifetime. But what about a private naughty photobook? It could be a lot of fun creating one for your partner or working together to make one! Consider Boudoir photography for solo books or kink-friendly photographers if you want professional photos of the two of you doing kinky things!

      Secret desires. Is there something your partner really wants? Something they would love to have, and you can make it happen? Surprise them with their secret desire one day and show them how special they are to you.

      Do something spontaneous. Planned romantic ideas are grand. But sometimes, a spontaneous burst of romance too can be just as fun. After all, passionate, long hours of sexy play are always sensual and fun. But at times, even a spontaneous quickie can feel just as awesome, don’t you think?

      Shop for each other secretly. Shopping is something fun that all of us enjoy. Agree on a budget and then off you go! Surprise each other by having it gift wrapped and opening them at dinner. If it’s a kinky gift, you might want to avoid public places for unwrapping!

      The little things. Buy something special for your lover on your way back home now and then. You could pick up flowers, chocolates, or even a stuffed toy with a silly face! Sometimes, it’s the little unexpected things that can make your love feel a lot more romantic than the grand gestures.

      Make a home video. What’s better than personal porn! While it doesn’t have to be x-rated, putting together a video telling your partner how much you love and miss them when they are away is a sure fire way to romance them in this digital age. Or you can get busy with yourself!

      Try tantric sex. Sexual intimacy is just as important as emotional intimacy for all couples. And no sexual act beats the intimacy tantric sex can bring to your relationship. If both of you can spare a few hours of undisturbed time, lock yourselves in the bedroom and prepare your minds for a sexual high that could leave both of you in ecstatic tears!

      Dance. Looking for a romantic idea that involves a bit of music and fun? Play something romantic and sway to the music together. Or get naughty and make it a personal dance, just for them. It may seem corny or awkward at first, but a few minutes into the dance, and it’ll just feel perfectly romantic!

      Watch a romantic movie. If both of you don’t feel like taking the effort to dress up and head out somewhere, just bring the romance into your living room. Pick a romantic movie that both of you haven’t watched yet, snuggle up, order in and spend a lazy afternoon in each other’s arms. Some suggestions include The Secretary, 9 ½ Weeks, Exit to Eden or The Story of O.

The next time you feel an overwhelming rush of happy love and just want to express all of that to your lover, use these romantic ideas.

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