Why Writing a Letter To Your Past Self Will Help You When Your Struggling in Submission

Writing a letter to your future self is a common journaling practice to help you see how happy you are in the present moment, but the writing a letter to your past self is equally helpful.

I’m a New Dominant, How Can Submissive Guide Help Me Understand My Submissive?

As time went on, I noticed that I was getting questions from Dominants in my email and praise from them for what their submissive has shared with them from the site. And so, I went on a little exploration of the site with new eyes. How would a new Dominant use Submissive Guide to learn and explore their budding relationship with a submissive?

Mind Your Manners: Not just for kids anymore

When I admitted that I had crossed into adulthood, somewhere around 23, I realized that the manners that had not been instilled in me as a child hindered my interactions with people. Now, I can't say that all adults have the following problem, but I've noticed an increasing trend that needs to be stopped. As a society, we are becoming increasingly forgetful of basic manners.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

The Internal and External Struggles of a Submissive

Submission definitely isn't easy. No matter what direction your journey takes you will have moments where struggle and strife challenge you to continue your submission.

I Am Submissive--Hear Me Roar!

Until I discovered my submissive self, I always found myself deferring to others as much as possible to avoid conflict. Suddenly I started standing taller, with my shoulders back and my head up.

How To Approach Female Dominants on FetLife

How is anyone ever able to build up a positive relationship with a Domme on sites like Fetlife?

What Do I Do While I Wait for a Response from My Long Distance Dominant?

What do I do with myself when I'm waiting for my Master to respond to my messages?

Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

Here's what has helped Mina learn about jealousy in a mono/poly relationship - it just might help you too.

It's Not Just The Size That Matters: Playing With an Uncircumcised Penis

Handling an intact penis is different from a cut one, that’s for sure. Here’s what I’ve picked up from the number of penis’ I’ve had intimate connection with a time or two.