In this Define This! Episode we talk about the term “vanilla” and how it can be interpreted throughout the BDSM culture.
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Situational service encompasses what I called conditional service. You serve only when presented with a specific set of circumstances, thus the situation is perfect for your service. This could be that you only submit on the weekends, or that you serve best when directed to do x, y and z.
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Negotiation and consent are the primary ways BDSM is distinguished from abuse - they are essential parts of kinky play. But far too many people gloss over how important it is to be really good at negotiating so that you can have great kinky fun. And you want to have kinky fun, right?
Read The Article | Find SimilarOur very own Mrs. Darling has written her story of discovery, Darling Discovered, and I give it a review!
Read The Review | Find SimilarPart of your receiving is also an exchange for the top. They want to watch you process that pain in open and positive ways so that they can get energy from it. I guess you could call a good sadist as an energy vampire along those lines.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThe issue is I feel like I have a need to submit. It's not just fun for me; I crave it on every aspect, not just sexually. Is this normal? How can I explain to my girlfriend that our sporadic play is fun, but I need more rules and structure?
Read The Article | Find SimilarPlease consider the following situations as a wake up call if you are in a relationship where you're feeling used or disrespected. Being a Dominant does not give them an automatic "be a dick" card.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhether dominant or submissive, we have been shaped by our pasts. Many of us take the messages we heard in our childhood, into our adult lives and still believe these terrible things about ourselves.
Read The Article | Find SimilarProtecting each other's privacy is so important. We don't out each other. We just don't.
Read The Article | Find SimilarSubmissive Rebound is often called sub-drop. Here are some ways you can recognize it in you.
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