Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

How More Than One D/s Household Lives Together

Sometimes it happens that there is more than one D/s or M/s family under one roof. Many wonder how this could work out. If your family is planning on moving in with another lifestyle family there are some very important things that you will need to think about.

What I've Learned From My Young Dominant

I’ve had other Doms comment that He can’t really teach me, that He can’t really control me, blah blah. He isn’t old enough, there is no way He could have the experience needed to handle a strong sub like me. However, to me, it’s less about experience than the intuition He has.

How to Write a BDSM Scene Report

The point of a scene report requested is to help you analyze your responses and emotions surrounding the play. So let's figure out how to write a useful scene report.

31 Days To Better Domestic Service: Start Where You Are

Baby steps are the key to successful, repeatable changes and developing new routines.

What To Do When He Wants Me to Send Him Money as a Sign of Commitment

Being asked for money as a sign of commitment to him and the D/s dynamic is not okay. You don’t have to pay someone to prove you want to be in this relationship

What Should I Try Next: Like Service-based Play? Try Serving Others

If it pleases you like it pleases me to serve your Partner, consider adding service based play that involves other consenting parties. Adding things like hosting parties, formal tea parties or D/s dinners can make you feel good about offering your service.

New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 2

In part 2, you'll learn how to figure out what you need in a D/s relationship and what is expected of you within the blossoming relationship. It's all about what you want and need and getting as much of that as possible. Live happy. Don't settle.

Finding Your Dominant: Dating when BDSM is Something You Need

Some great tips for getting started searching for a compatible partner when BDSM is a need in your life.