Not long after my first step into the real world of BDSM I learned of a phrase that to this day has no real definition that I can pin to it. That phrase is “speaking submissively.” To me, there is no way to speak submissively that isn’t also speaking respectfully and with deference. Many other people speak the same way in situations that call for it, like in front of a judge or to the president for instance.But I still get questions about how a submissive is supposed to say x, y and z so I thought that I’d do my best to convey what I think would work in a variety of circumstances so that if the occasion arises that you need to “speak submissively” you’ll have something you can say.
Read The Series | Find SimilarIt's funny to me to see people wanting a Dominant but then looking for "chemistry" as well. They want to fall in love with the Dominant of their dreams. Apparently, these submissives have come into the lifestyle thinking that a Dominant is BDSMs version of Prince Charming. Ladies, He simply doesn't exist either in the Vanilla world or in the lifestyle. Most Doms I know have regular lives to live and when their backside itches they scratch it. They fart when they eat beans and burp when they drink a beer. They wake up with bags under their eyes and a 5 o'clock shadow just exactly like their vanilla counterparts. But here we are hoping like crazy that he will forever and ever look like a hottie in leathers while always having a desire to flog our submissive little behinds.
Read The Article | Find SimilarToday I spent some time digging into the purchases of BDSM books and have compiled the following breakdown of best selling books and some odds and ends that surprised us.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarWhether you are preparing for a scene or well into aftercare it's always handy to have tools and resources at hand that can help you through all the stages of the play time many of us adore. I've gathered a list of the articles and essays on this site that are related to scene care and aftercare into one list.
Read The Article | Find SimilarPeople often misunderstand how relationship communication works because they may have had such poor examples or think that coercing or manipulating someone is par for the course.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThis is just a small list of the things I carry with me(whether physically, mentally, and emotionally)that help me with my submission and help me be the slave that I want to be.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThe emotional connection, power dynamics, types of both littles and caregivers, stigmas that we have to deal with from people who don’t understand the dynamic, and educational resources such as a negotiation form, glossary, and a sample contract
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Read The Article | Find SimilarLearning to be positive, to focus on my dreams and goals and to make things a priority again have been a huge change for me and I'm looking forward to a better future. Maybe you can see how the Miracle Morning might help you also.
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