My First Anticipatory Service and 3 Lessons It Taught Me

In essence, anticipatory service is about being able to see patterns in the procedure, and it can be difficult to track patterns across a wide array of your Dominant’s vocational, recreational, and habitual tendencies. If you have just one aspect to focus on it, increases your ability to observe and retain their pattern of doing things in that area so you can help them through their day efficiently with anticipatory service.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

Season’s Beatings: Navigating Holidays Around Your Family as a Kinky Couple

Every time we have to face our family as a kink couple, Master and I have had to tone it down and disguise how we normally live our lives. Our family does not know how we live and they really don't have any business knowing. I'm not going to ask my father what he does in the bedroom so I am not going to volunteer that information to my father. It just goes without saying. So, with a crowded house of family, how do we manage to stay Dominant and submissive?

The Heartache of a Breakup: Recovering from a BDSM Relationship Ending

There are five steps you can do to help ease you through this hard time and come out the other side with new hope, treasured memories and valuable experience. Let me walk you through each of these and we'll see if it doesn't work a little magic on your torn heart.

How to Approach a Dominant You Are Interested In

With the thought of realizing you can approach a Dominant, here are some tips to get you away from the wall and into someone else's gaze.

Tips on How to Attend a BDSM Convention on a Budget

It’s no secret that these conventions can get costly so I wanted to put together some tips for you to use to help you save a bit of money and still enjoy the event to its fullest.

Why A Punishment Dynamic May be Just What You Need

Thinking about your current situation and how you manage your life right now, do you think you would benefit from a punishment dynamic?

Defining Sub Space

Mistress Steel breaks down the many levels of subspace, as she sees them, and how to navigate them in play.

Fear in Submission

Fear can be good, because it makes us take a moment and stop and think about what we’re about to do, especially when that thing we’re about to do is stepping out of our comfort zone. Making the decision to submit, is definitely one of those decisions.

31 Days of Submissive Journaling - Day 19: Ways to Personalize Your Online Journal (Blog)

Whether you have a public or private blog, making it a personal statement is great fun. Let's go over what sort of things you can do to make your blog speak of your personality and be attractive to readers so they'll want to come back.