Want to know a secret? Submission gets better every day. What makes it so good?

I'm not going to tell you any revelations that you probably don't already know. But here goes.

Your personal investment in your future is what makes it better every day. The fact that you follow Submissive Guide to learn and explore submission in your own life shows that you are invested in your happiness. We all hope to have the perfect partner and that our life is filled with ease and contentment but when we pick submission as our journey you can guarantee that it's not going to be rainbows and the sunshine.

I've compiled a few things that I've learned that make the way I submit more fulfilling and improved at every turn of the clock. Take what you can from these and make them work for you.

Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Mistakes are something that all of us since we were little has had to deal with and accept consequences. As submissives, especially when we are learning something new, we want to avoid making mistakes and often this can lead us to not taking chances or risks that could benefit us. We become self-sitters or doormats rather than care for ourselves first only to not stir the waters.

Learn from those mistakes. Taking a misstep and learning something from it is the best thing that anyone can do for themselves. I certainly think it has helped me learn not to repeat things that are detrimental or damaging to my submission. Things like ignoring the violation of limits, playing without a safe word with someone new or not setting up safe calls have all bit me in the ass at one time or another. Don't be like me.

And that takes us to learn from others. There is a huge community of submissives online that write about their journey just like I do.  I don't shy away from talking about my slip ups and what I've learned about them. Use that information to keep yourself from making the same mistakes. Does this work in all situations? No, but more often than not you can learn from others to keep you safe.

Use your common sense. Honestly, I've seen the disappearance of common sense more often with novice submissives in frenzy. All the new things you see and want to experience, all the information overload that novices can get trapped in, can and does blind them from what their gut is telling them. They will jump without a second thought and wind up broken and bleeding at the bottom of the cliff. If you desperately want to do something then giving yourself time to think about it for a day, a week, a month won't change anything. But it will give you time to listen to your inner voice.

The last thing I have for you today is to document your journey. It doesn't have to be in a public journal; a private notebook works just as well. As long as you take the time to write down how you are feeling, what you are experiencing and learning and what you have learned from day to day your better submission will be just under the next page. Turn that page with preparedness and past insights and you will continue to grow and develop the perfect personal submission that fills you with happiness and joy for years to come.

Thoughts to Ponder

  1. What would you add to this list?
  2. Have you discovered the secret to your better submission? What is it?
  3. What one small thing can you do every day that may have a positive outlook on your submissive life?

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