When Fantasy Collides with Reality: Weighing Expectations when Exploring Kink Fantasies

Unrealistic expectations and desires are some of the most difficult challenges faced by those who are experienced in the lifestyle when dealing with those just entering the lifestyle. In many ways we each buy into a particular ‘aspect’ of the fantasy. Yet over and over people try to implement the impossible.

10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

Many of the things we do when it comes to BDSM and D/s relationships seem to come faster than in a traditional relationship, so often we forget that the base of a D/s relationship is a traditional one. You are still two people that plan to cohabitate. With that comes decisions and plans, change and adjustment periods.

In the first list of tips, I want to give I'm going to cover the more basic 'vanilla' ideas that will make your submissive more comfortable as they move into your home. The second list is BDSM based tips that will hopefully start your relationship on a good footing now that you are living under the same roof.

The Bare Necessities of a Total Power Exchange Relationship

What do I absolutely have to have in order for my submission to him to be fulfilling and rewarding? What makes our relationship work after 6 years and with no hint of failing?

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Petitioning is an acknowledgment of structure and formality; it is definitely a humbling experience for a slave. It is also a way for a slave to solidly express their desires – no hemming and hawing, no beating around the bush, just a determined statement of the desire.

Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

Talking to your Dom about the way you keep your hair (the colour, the length, the style of cut, etc.) can give your Dom some great opportunities to exercise control over you in a new way, and thereby give you the opportunity to grow into a new kind of submission.

Single In the Scene Part VIII: Transformation Happens

I had to learn that if I’m doing the surrender journey right, a transformation is gonna happen, plain and simple!

Release from the Collar: A Journey

I’ve read a lot about what it’s like to be a submissive without a Dominant. I never really thought I’d find myself here, but here I am.

Creating Realistic Submissive Goals Sets You Up for Success

Setting goals is a great way to improve your lifestyle, whether you’re a single submissive or in a relationship.

Build Self-Esteem through Grooming Rituals: Series Intro

When you’re being asked to put your body on display for various purposes, having a low self-esteem or an unhappy body image can be detrimental to how you conduct yourself in and out of play.

I'm Worried I'm Not Enough for My Dominant

He's in love with me as well but I'm not so sure that I'm what he needs anymore. His need for his sadistic ways to flourish are being held back by me. As his submissive /slave, is it wrong for me to decide this for him? Tell him that I'm no longer what he needs. Or do I sit back and watch the man I love, my Master, struggle internally?