I’m a New Dominant, How Can Submissive Guide Help Me Understand My Submissive?

As time went on, I noticed that I was getting questions from Dominants in my email and praise from them for what their submissive has shared with them from the site. And so, I went on a little exploration of the site with new eyes. How would a new Dominant use Submissive Guide to learn and explore their budding relationship with a submissive?

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

What Do You Do When Top Drop Rules Your Relationship?

He saw my eagerness and it scared him. He had seen it before. He saw my willingness to a poly relationship and it petrified him. You see he had accomplished his dream relationship before me and it had crumbled because of others. I scared him because I was the dream again.

Finding My Submissive Focus With a Mantra

If you think that a personal mantra would be a great way to help you keep yourself in the proper submissive mindset, I encourage you to speak with your owner to come up with one that works for you.

Note To Self: Selfish Pride Comes Before A Fall

Pride is a slippery emotion that I believe many a slave deal with, even if we don’t recognize it

Your Kink is Not my Kink - Understanding Other People's Kinks

We need to take a step forward and be less judgmental and open to other people's kinks. Here's a story of one such discrimination. Learn to support each other.

Stop Comparing Yourself With Others - My Submission Isn't Better Than Yours

I know being competitive is a part of human nature, but the constant comparison of yourself to others doesn’t do anyone, especially you any good.

Sample Consensual "Slavery" Contract

A simple sample contract you can use to create your own.

What Should I Try Next: Like Wax Play? Try Knives!

If you love the way wax feels drizzled all over your body, consider adding in knife play for the scraping or removal of the built up wax from your skin.