How To Perform a Self-Assessment Before You Search For a Dominant Partner

It's good to start forming an idea of who you are and what you are looking for before you start searching for a Dominant

10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

Many of the things we do when it comes to BDSM and D/s relationships seem to come faster than in a traditional relationship, so often we forget that the base of a D/s relationship is a traditional one. You are still two people that plan to cohabitate. With that comes decisions and plans, change and adjustment periods.

In the first list of tips, I want to give I'm going to cover the more basic 'vanilla' ideas that will make your submissive more comfortable as they move into your home. The second list is BDSM based tips that will hopefully start your relationship on a good footing now that you are living under the same roof.

Newsflash: Feeding His Dominance Is Not Topping From Below

Oftentimes, with novice submissives, it is assumed that showing any sort of desire for something that was not suggested by the Dominant would be topping from the bottom. Let me tell you now, having desires and asking for them to be fulfilled is not topping from the bottom.

Who Has the Greatest Responsibility in a D/s Relationship?

Every adult has some personal responsibilities that don't go away just because you may be submissive in a D/s or M/s relationship.

To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question

This post is more about the D/s decisions surrounding children that have come to my attention through requests for advice and by reading discussions on forums. Below are my personal opinions about these topics and anything I say here should be weighed against your own morals and beliefs. Make your own decisions about your life.

Playtime Activities You Can Do in Long Distance Relationships

A list of games that my Dom and I play, which you might feel free to pull apart and put together in new, exciting ways that work for your Dom and yourself.

Submissive Frenzies: When You Want It All RIGHT NOW!

Many aspects of BDSM are similar to addictions and Frenzies can be considered to be the 'withdrawal' stage. The peculiar thing about this is that a submissive need not ever have engaged in a real life D/s BDSM experience to actually go into this state of need

What is a Leather Family?

What does "in a leather family" mean? What is Leather? I know where it started, but what does it mean in today's BDSM society?

Learning To Be a 24/7 Submissive Is Like...

You practice, adapt and learn what works for you and discard the things that don't. If you apply it to your everyday life, make it a part of you and don't consider it an on/off switch, then you too can be 24/7.

Learn How To Trust Your Dominant Partner Again After An Affair

Your partner cheated on you, but you want to repair the relationship and restore the trust. How do you do that?