In this video series, I define terms that readers have asked me about! This one is all about safewords. Do you have a term you'd like defined? Let me know.
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Unrealistic expectations and desires are some of the most difficult challenges faced by those who are experienced in the lifestyle when dealing with those just entering the lifestyle. In many ways we each buy into a particular ‘aspect’ of the fantasy. Yet over and over people try to implement the impossible.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt is important to understand what we get from experiencing pain in a play aspect. Inside are just a few of the benefits of experiencing pain in play.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWe laid down rules for what was allowed with play for others, we established a way to reconnect after he played so that I wouldn't feel less of a person once it was over.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhen we play we have a chance that the blissful time we are experiencing will end well or may end suddenly from something unexpected. Yes we do everything we can to avoid having to stop play but when sudden illness takes hold the best thing is to stop and treat the problem.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI won't pretend kink's a magic cure-all, and I sure as hell won't suggest it's a cure for OCD, but it does help mine when it comes to M.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhether dominant or submissive, we have been shaped by our pasts. Many of us take the messages we heard in our childhood, into our adult lives and still believe these terrible things about ourselves.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWe are the sum of our experiences, after all, and if I hadn't learned these lessons I don’t think I’d be where I am today.
Read The Article | Find SimilarMistress Steel breaks down the many levels of subspace, as she sees them, and how to navigate them in play.
Read The Article | Find SimilarOnce you start perfecting the art of giving up control of your orgasm to another person, you can start exploring it in other ways. Forced orgasm is not forcing it upon somebody unwilling (consent always of course!) but instead creating a situation where the bottom is orgasming in a way that is surprising, unconventional, or even in a way that makes them uncomfortable.
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